You can increase your child's self-esteem with a crown, a ball and rewards for failure.
For children, even life itself is still a kind of fun. Therefore, convey the necessary information and form a certain model of behavior in the child and self-esteem you can use games.
Game 1. Against the fear of defeat
Low self-esteem results in vanity. Therefore, the child is terrified of being in a ridiculous position, of losing. Tell by examples that falling face down in the mud happens to every person. Another thing is that you need to take it calmly and even with humor. Use the following allegory for this.
To your signal "falling into the mud!" the child must fall. Agree that he does not choose the landing position (so that it is supposedly not so clumsy), that you will surely laugh, and he will make faces in response. The child can fall on his butt, flat on the mat, in a seemingly humiliating position on his knees. Under your contagious laughter and by grimacing, the child will learn to get out of the situation with humor and not so acutely perceive his fall into the mud.
Play with your child more often any game where there is a place for defeat. And agree that the one who "blows" so many times in a row will receive a surprise. This will show the child that losing is not always a tragedy.
Spend quality time with your child, then he will grow confident / istockphoto.com
Game 2. To develop self-control
Loss of composure at the slightest provocation is another consequence of low self-esteem. Teach to save calmness in the presence of irritants, you can do this
Let the child recite a poem, and you try to confuse him, cause irritation, annoyance, frighten, arrange provocations. To do this, suddenly turn on the light, suddenly come closer and at the same time clap your hands, unexpectedly slightly shake the child by the hand. Self-control skills will definitely be recorded in the child's subcortex.
Game 3. To notice my victories
A child with low self-esteem devalues his achievements, believes that he does not know how to do something worthy "wow!"
Start a box in which all household members will put notes about the child's actions that cause the very "wow". At the end of the week, sit down baby on a high chair, put a crown on his head and read out all the notes, which is called with feeling, tact and arrangement.
"Disclosure" of notes should take place in front of all family members. First, the more listeners, the more pleasant it is for the child. Secondly, if everyone has postponed their affairs for the sake of such an occasion, then how valuable is the "king"! Thirdly, the child will receive a signal - if necessary, each of those present will stand up for him as a mountain, that they are his rear.
Throw a ball to the child and say: "You are talented because ..". Let him answer / istockphoto.com
Game 4. So that you know your own worth
The result of low self-esteem is that the child does not know how to praise himself, because he does not understand what is generally valuable and unique.
Throw the ball to the child, saying: "You are talented because ...". Throwing the ball back to you, the child must argue why. Continue in this way to talk about other advantages and victories of the child. Focusing on your skills, speaking them out loud is not only an awareness of your exclusivity, but also programming for success, and success increases self-esteem.
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