Many people say that there is nothing worse than loneliness. But not all of us need a person next to us to be happy. Sometimes people are happy even when they become lonely. Therefore, they consciously choose loneliness.
So why do people choose to be alone?
They are disappointed in people
Frustrations can come for a variety of reasons. But it all boils down to the fact that people begin to be taken for granted. After all, in the beginning, any relationship seems perfect. Let's admit a love union. You become so happy that you cannot get enough of each other. And then suddenly your partner starts to neglect you, and takes you for granted. And you should not tolerate such an attitude towards yourself. It would be much better in this option to choose loneliness, and love yourself!
They work on themselves
Sometimes a person just needs to be alone in order to engage in self-development, formulate his goals, make plans, work on himself. By the way, every person can occasionally take a break in the form of loneliness in order to just work on themselves.
They don't want extra commitments.
When a person is alone for a long time, it becomes a habit, and he no longer wants to build relationships, because he does not plan to take responsibility for someone. He doesn't need to change his lifestyle and acquire obligations.
They have a different social life
Such people have relatives, friends, but they are not going to build relationships, because they are simply and so happy. They just have a different social life.
They want to increase productivity or awaken creativity in themselves.
Creativity loves loneliness. Indeed, all the best ideas people come up with just being not in society, but alone with themselves. It can also be attributed here that each of us is sensitive to criticism, and this can reduce performance. A person who is left alone can think more freely, calmly, work better, and achieve more.
They are content with dating sites
For some people, in principle, it is enough to use dating apps. At the same time, according to statistics, almost 70% of people who use such sites never meet people they like, they do not go on dates. The fact is that many people don't want strong relationships, but simply receive attention. Although I agree, sometimes it is on dating sites that people find their love. Our generation has been able to communicate on the Internet for years and never even meet. And they don't even feel lonely, virtual friends and even partners are enough for them. Using dating sites is mainly needed to raise self-esteem, nothing more!
It's no longer a shame to be lonely
Yes, it used to be, when a man over 30 and a woman over 25, was ashamed to be alone. Nowadays people all too often consciously choose loneliness for themselves, instead of building relationships. Nobody needs to please, stereotypes are destroyed! Therefore, there are absolutely no reasons that can push a person into a relationship. And as for the birth of children, now it is also not necessary to marry for this, and there is nothing shameful in this! Remember how unmarried ladies used to be called old maids, and men were also not particularly appreciated, they said, since they are still not married, then some kind of defective? Now such reasoning is perceived as bad manners!
What did you choose - loneliness or relationship?
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