We all choose a soul mate in the image of our parents. So girls who were raised by their fathers for a long time take from their dads the main features of future gentlemen. If the father respects his daughter, treats her like a princess, pampers her, takes into account her opinion, then, having matured, the girl will choose a man who is similar to her dad. It's the same with boys. Unwittingly, they choose women as wives who are similar to their mothers in appearance, character, goals in life. According to psychologists, as a man treats his mother, so he will treat his chosen one in the future.
This I mean, do not flatter yourself. If your boyfriend and his mother have a terrible relationship, and with you there is a complete idyll, be prepared that this will not always be the case. Someday he will show his true face, and he will be as rude to you as he is to his mother.
To some, such a criterion may seem controversial, but I would not jump to conclusions. From childhood, the foundations of interactions are laid in us. Children look at their parents and they develop behavioral patterns. And when our heart chooses a partner for itself, we do not know what our relationship will be over time. It's like a lottery!
There are signs that will show or predict how a man will continue to behave in your relationship.
The man grew up with a loving mother
If a man grew up in a family where his mother surrounded him with care, love, kindness, attention, respect, affection, then he will give all this to his woman.
But! There is also one nuisance here. A man can be a mama's boy! And then you can enter into an unequal battle with your mother-in-law, and it is not a fact that in this battle you will win. Here you can advise, show as much gentleness, respect, kindness to your mother-in-law. Try to become her friend, her daughter, to be on her side, then you will not have to participate in any fights.
The man never had a close relationship with his mother.
If a man grew up with a mother who showed coldness towards her son, there was no affection, warmth and attention from her, then he will become open to romantic relationships. Do not be afraid that a man will treat women with respect.
But! A man can be very afraid of the moment when the relationship becomes serious. The fact is that there was no strong attachment in childhood, and this scares him already in adulthood.
The man was deprived of maternal love
If a man does not receive enough maternal love from his mother, then he will grow up with a lack of respect for all women. Subconsciously, he will do so to hurt all his girls. A man develops a certain attitude towards the entire female sex, as if all ladies do not deserve love and respect. This is the type of men with whom a woman most often has a toxic relationship.
A man treats his mother with respect and helps her in everything.
If he has a completely benevolent attitude towards his mother, then you will be behind him like a stone wall.
The man has an unhealthy relationship with his mother.
If a man shouts at his mother, shuts her up, criticizes and insults, draw conclusions, take a closer look, most likely in the future you will have a similar attitude towards you!
Do you agree with the opinion of psychologists? Or did it turn out the other way around?
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