Wanting a child is still not enough, you need to be psychologically prepared for the fact that there will soon be three of you.
1. What do you need a child for?
Perhaps you are driven by a social stereotype, or do you want the child to glue your problematic relationship? The desire to have a child should ideally be associated with love, care and a sincere intention to make the child happy.2. Do you like spending time with children?
Analyze your behavior in situations where you have to communicate with the children of friends or acquaintances.
By the way, if you are annoyed by other people's children, you do not need to immediately give yourself a two and close the topic. Many mothers notice that their love for children begins with the appearance of their baby, and before that they did not notice any special affection in themselves.
3. How are things going with material capabilities?
The child needs finances, and so that his support does not turn into hard labor and constant quarrels with a partner, plan a budget in the budget.
A simple test for parents-to-be: 7 questions to see if you are ready for a new family / istockphoto.com
4. What is a good parent for you?
The expectant mother must understand who she subconsciously focuses on. What kind of relationship do you want to build with your child? What are you planning to teach? It is advisable to plan the upbringing line even before the baby is born and not leave it.5. Do you have someone to lean on?
A small child is a very serious stress, both physical and emotional. Think about whether there are people in your life who can hedge. You can raise a child alone, but it is better if you at least sometimes attract helpers. Nobody is immune to the crisis, right?
6. Have you spent time with your children?
Think about what you really know about childcare. If there is little knowledge, we immediately go to educate ourselves.
7. Are you ready to change your current lifestyle?
Many psychologists start with this very question. He, if not the main one, then somewhere near. According to statistics, more than half of mothers have no idea how much their life will change after the birth of a child. If someone tells you that you don't have to give up parties, building a career, or even banal meeting with friends. Don't believe it. You will have to give up everything for at least a few months (years) while the child will depend on you.
A simple test for parents-to-be: 7 questions to see if you are ready for a new family / istockphoto.com
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