Previously, everyone perceived marriage as something inevitable. The girls were instilled in the basics of good behavior, taught to work around the house, with the words: "study, otherwise no one will marry." With boys, too, something similar. And so, the man grew up, he is already over 30, and he is still not married. And the society begins to gobble up: “Well, when will you marry / will you get married? Isn't it time to give birth to children? " and stuff like that.
Life is not predictable. And all the polls cannot be all in 30 already and be married and have a couple of kids. So before running down the aisle, be sure to think about what are the reasons for your marriage / marriage.
Here are the worst reasons for marriage
Fear of loneliness
Many, following the lead of the society again, run into a relationship with at least someone. So that "everyone has it and I will have it" and so that in old age you will not be left alone. Sometimes people are even forced to endure toxic relationships just to avoid being alone. There is nothing wrong with being alone! But living with a terrible person is a real nightmare.
Solving relationship problems
If you have been in a relationship for a long time, and you have problems, do not think that with the appearance of a stamp in your passport, everything will disappear and immediately improve. On the contrary, things can only get worse! And many fly into marriage, and give birth to children, if only everything would work out. But this will not happen, it will not be!
You want to prove something with your action
It is very foolish to listen to society, relatives, friends, and because of this go to marriage. What are you trying to prove to others? Do not forget that a wedding lasts one or two days, and a marriage is a lifetime!
Search for care
Well, or you want to take care of someone. In this case, get yourself a dog and take care of your health, or go back to live with your parents and let them take care of you. You should not go into marriage just for this, this is stupidity.
Filling the void
Here and loneliness, and "something is missing", and parting with someone. And it turns out that marriage becomes a cure for some kind of mental trauma. But here you are mistaken, your wounds will only heal a little, but you can also get new ones! Many people try to overcome their childhood traumas through marriage, building a happy family image in their heads, and compensating for the indifference or violence that they endured in childhood.
Circumstances
You want children, so you need to get married, all your friends are married - and you need to. By the age of 40, and you have not yet been married. Well, pregnancy can also be attributed here, these are the circumstances, but the person himself is not ready for marriage.
And here are the reasons why you should definitely get married!
You are two complete personalities
After all, a strong happy marriage is a connection between two full-fledged personalities, mature, and harmoniously complementing each other.
Trust between you
No relationship can last long without trust. Trust takes a very long time to build, and it is almost impossible to restore it.
You are good at resolving conflicts
There are conflicts even in happy relationships, we all quarrel, but this is not important, the ability to resolve conflicts peacefully and wisely is important.
You know each other very well
Yes, and it takes time. So do not marry a person whom you have known for a short time and superficially, no matter how overwhelmed you are.
You express your love openly
No, this does not mean that you need to lisp, hug, kiss with each other at every step. An open expression of love is a general sense of humor, words about feelings, caring, trust, emotional and physical intimacy. All this together is the prerequisite for building a strong union, a strong long marriage.
What reasons did you have for getting married?
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