Raising children is difficult. Especially girls. The media instills in them complete heresy: everyone should be beautiful and slender, but at the same time you should not be proud of the fact that you are a beauty. In adolescence, girls become less confident in themselves, because they are very picky about their appearance. They also want girls to be diligent students and act like ladies. But how to combine all this together, no one explains.
Someone brings up their daughters in complete severity, while someone gives more freedom. But in any case, there are proven actions that will help you raise a confident personality and a happy woman out of your daughter.
Be an example for her - become an independent person
You must love yourself and appreciate your talents. Show your daughter that she needs to have a life of her own, outside of the man. Take care of your interests more often, be able to stand up for yourself. Show that the woman can handle everything on her own. Never talk derogatory or offensive about your appearance or the appearance of other women.
Be an inspiration to her - so she can set goals for herself.
It is important to show your daughter from childhood that women can, just like men, succeed in absolutely any profession, then she will have a wide range of interests. She will be able to build a career in what she is interested in, not limiting herself exclusively to female professions.
Encourage your daughter's hobbies
While the child is still small, you decide to a greater extent what circles he will go to, and what to do. But then you just need to offer and encourage your daughter's choice. She might want to try something that is considered purely boyish!
Be supportive for her - empathize with her
If your daughter comes to you with her problems, do not turn away. Listen, give advice, but do not say that she is behaving in any way ridiculous or overreacting to the situation. Your role is to secure a place for her where her daughter can talk about everything that happens in her life. She needs to know that she has a right to be heard. This will increase her self-esteem, and she will know that she can always share her feelings and problems with you. Never judge your daughter when she tells you something, as this will form a bond between you for years to come.
Praise your daughter for her success.
This is especially necessary for strict mothers to understand. After all, they only scold and demand, and when children achieve something, they take it for granted. Praise more often for academic success, for appearance, for character, for attitudes towards people.
Teach that relationships are important, but that her well-being should always come first.
It's good when a person falls in love and makes friends, but relationships, although important, should never be the most important, the person's own well-being is more important. After all, sacrifice, physical and emotional care is expected from a woman. Around repeat: "must" and "must". And as a result, women misunderstand everything, live wrong, forgetting to take care of themselves. Teach your daughter a healthy relationship by example. Let her know that she has the right to say no to her beloved, regardless of whether it is a friend or a boyfriend.
Most importantly, in order to raise a happy woman and a self-confident person from your daughter, you need to surround her with affection and love. It will take, of course, a lot of effort to get what you want. At times it will seem to you that you are losing. But you can't give up. Just do not expect anything from the girl in return, but give her everything in full: attention, understanding, advice, love, support and protection.
Believe me, when she becomes an adult, she will warmly remember her childhood, and thank you for it!
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