First, falling in love comes, you see everything in pink, you absolutely do not notice the flaws in your partner. But then the candy-bouquet period passes, and the eyes seem to open. Someone continues to live happily ever after, and someone suddenly begins to realize that all this time he was in a toxic relationship.
But sometimes it is so difficult to understand that you are in a toxic relationship, although all the signs are there. So, let's say you have some kind of skirmishes, you want your relationship to be better, you wait and endure, and in the end you just stay with this toxic person.
Of course, when you love a person with all your heart, you don't want to admit that everything is not at all the way you would like. Try to look at your relationship with a sober look, now you need to forget a little about your love, and understand that you are not suitable for each other!
Here are the signs that you are in a toxic relationship!
He violates your personal boundaries.
There are many examples of such behavior. Let's say guests suddenly come to your partner, they come to your house, and sit for a long time, talking noisily. You make a remark to your partner, pointing out that your home is not the best place for such gatherings, that it is too late, that you have to get up early for work. He replies that he will take this into account, but the gatherings still continue every other day, after a week, etc.
Or, for example, your partner knows perfectly well that you cannot use the phone at work, but he still calls, writes, and then makes claims to you, because you did not answer him.
He just wants to keep everything under control. He wants you to adjust to him, so that everything is according to him. Nor does it respect your boundaries.
He instills in you a sense of guilt
In your relationship, not everything is so smooth, but absolutely always your partner instills in you a sense of guilt. Or you are trying to achieve something, but he does not support you at all, but, on the contrary, makes you feel guilty for wanting to seem better to everyone. Or maybe you decided to lose weight, and he accuses you of having another? Well, and if you catch him cheating, he turns everything over so that it is you who are to blame for everything, you brought him, you paid little attention to him, did not satisfy him in bed, etc.
You lost all your friends
When you're in a relationship, of course, your partner becomes your top priority. But this does not mean that you should completely abandon your friends, and communication with them. To be a happy woman, you need this companionship. If your partner decides for himself when and with whom you can meet, and forbids you to see your loved ones, but he himself meets and walks with his own often, then this is very bad.
After quarrels, you "play" in silence
Any of your skirmishes end in a game of silence. You simply do not know how to solve conflicts, preferring to ignore problems. But you need to understand, from this they will not go anywhere, but will simply hang over you until a certain moment.
He criticizes you all the time.
None of us is perfect, each has its own advantages and disadvantages. But loving people try not to notice flaws, know how to forgive, make concessions. If your partner criticizes you every now and then, pointing out that you are a bad hostess, it is not stylish dress, cook so-so, do not try in bed, then, do you really not understand that he is just you humiliates? You can't please him in any way, or maybe you need to stop trying altogether? You think that you did something good, but even in this good he sees bad!
It violates your privacy
He does not hesitate to climb into your phone, checking who you called, who wrote to you. He can rummage through your things, go to your pages on social networks. This is another sign of its toxicity, and also of mistrust in you.
It's hard to understand that a relationship is toxic, and even harder to get out of it. Find the strength to do it, because you deserve more.
The original article is posted here: https://kabluk.me/psihologija/6-priznakov-togo-chto-vy-sostoite-v-toksichnyh-otnosheniyah.html
