Parents often do not know what to do because their children do not obey at all and do not understand the prohibitions. But here it is important to develop clear tactics. If you always stand firm on the words you said, then the child will understand everything over time. And these phrases will definitely help you!
Remember, there are no perfect dads and moms. We all make mistakes, we ourselves learn from our mistakes, and there is nothing wrong with that. And children, they are capricious quite often. So everyone. Children, too, are never perfect. But who is the adult here? Of course, parents. Only you will not solve anything with constant abuse and punishment. Here you need to be smart. Try to use these phrases in communication with your child, and I know you will succeed!
So, I offer you a list of phrases, under each of them there will be a fictional situation where it can be applied.
"I answered you)"
- Mom, can you buy me this car?
- No, kid.
- Well, Mom, I don't have such a machine yet, I want to!
- I already answered you.
“You never buy me anything at all.
- I already answered you.
Yes, that's it. Even if the child continues to stand his ground, you will have to turn into a robot mom, and say this phrase to the bitter end.
If you do this, then you will succeed. The child will surely calm down if you make it firmly to him that you do not want to talk about this topic anymore.
"Our conversation is over with you"
Another typical situation:
- Mom, can I go and ride a little scooter in the yard?
- No, it's raining there.
- Mom, it's not strong at all, dripping a little, I'll put on a hood.
- Our conversation with you is over!
- Mom, please!
- Our conversation is over.
With your phrase, you show the child that you have made the final decision, and he will not be able to somehow change it.
"I do not intend to discuss this anymore."
- Mom, can Christina stay with us today with an overnight stay?
- Marina, no, she already spent the night with us quite recently.
- Mom, please!
- I do not intend to discuss this anymore.
"Don't start talking about it again."
- Dad, I want those sneakers over there.
- No, they are very expensive.
- But I like them so much ...
- So, we take these, it's decided. And don't start talking about it all over again.
- But I want those!
- You again bring up a topic about this, which means that you are left without watching TV today!
Your child must learn to hear and understand you.
“We have already made a decision. If you ask again, there will be consequences "
- Mom, can I play my phone?
- No, first eat, you don't have to play the phone at the table.
- But mom, I’m careful, I don’t get dirty!
- No, the decision has been made, if you ask again, there will be consequences.
- Well, mom, well, please!
“Did I tell you not to start talking about this anymore?” Now, until the end of the day, you are left without a phone.
Of course, just like that, very few people manage to change the child's behavior and teach him to obey. Prepare for tantrums and resentments, but do not show pity. They said - do it, and no indulgences.
You need to firmly stand your ground, and not change your mind under any circumstances, just a little time will pass, and your phrases will start working! So you will bring up an obedient child, you will be able to win his respect, and build the right relationship with him. You will be able to make sure that the child understands you the first time.
And what are you doing so that the child obeys you? Maybe you have some of your own parenting secrets?
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