Do you know this? You want the best, but it turns out, as always. You try your best to help the person, but he does not appreciate it, and even begins to treat him somehow worse. If you are also a kind-hearted person, then you probably know this phrase: do not do good and you will not get evil. But why does it work?
If you also had a similar question at least once in your life, then let's sort it out together. I want to retell you one story that will help you find the answer to the question posed. And, perhaps, you will be able to figure out how to live in this unjust world.
A young woman once knocked on the door of a sage. She burst into tears bitterly, and asked for help. The sage let her into the house, and began to listen to her story.
“I just don’t understand what I’m doing wrong,” the woman said desperately, still bursting into tears, “throughout my life I have only treated people kindly. I opened my soul to them, I was open and responsive with them. I did good for them just like that, I did not expect absolutely nothing in return. I just helped if I could. I did everything good for free, and in return I received only blows in the back and evil! I just felt so offended, I already endure so much, I am so tired. Please tell me, is this how I live? What am I doing wrong?
The old man listened to all this carefully and thoughtfully, and then gave his answer to the woman.
“Take off all your clothes and walk down the street completely naked,” the sage said with complete calmness.
- What? But how? Are you crazy or what? Are you kidding me or are you kidding me? What are you talking about? Are you seriously? If I do this, what will others think of me? What will they say? And if someone abuses me?
Then the old man got up from the chair on which he was sitting, opened the front door, and put a mirror on the table.
- You are very ashamed and scared to walk the streets with a naked body. But why can you so boldly bare your soul? Your soul is open, just like this door. And you let absolutely everyone in there! Your soul is like a mirror. People who are full of evil, when they look into your kind soul, see a terrible picture, because all their rot is reflected in the mirror. They do not have the strength to admit to themselves that you are much purer and brighter than them, - said the sage.
- But what should I do then? What depends on me? How can I change the situation, - asked the woman.
- Come here, - the sage took the woman by the hand and led her to the door, - look, this is my garden, I planted it myself, I have been watering it for many years, delicious fruits and beautiful flowers grow here. I take care of plants. I have never seen exactly how the fruits ripen, how the buds open. All I saw how these bright blossoming flowers look, all I could was to taste the fragrant ripe fruits.
- You need to try to learn from nature, - continued the sage, - just look at all these beautiful plants, and do as they do. Open your heart with people with great care, so that no one can notice. Open your soul only to good people, not to everyone. If someone tramples on you, picks off your petals and throws them on the ground - get away from them. These are just weeds, they have not yet been able to grow to you, and you will not be able to help them with anything. They will still see their ugly reflection in you.
The young woman left the sage, thanking him for such advice. And the sage thought for a long time, watering his fragrant garden, and admiring the purity of the soul of the young beauty.
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