5 things moms lie to each other about in playgrounds

The playground is a place of communication for many young mothers. And their conversations, most often, concern exactly the kids.

Surely, after talking with other mothers, it seemed to you that your child is the least able, the last one sat / got up / went, and in general, other parents have incredibly obedient and very talented children.

Don't be in a hurry to think of yourself as a bad mother. After all, your "colleagues" on the playground simply lie about many things (or in some places they exaggerate, and in others they do not say anything).

1. Their children are not developed for years (and not months)

On the playground, there is only talk about which of the children went or started talking earlier. You will certainly be asked about the age of the child, and then they will say: "And we are younger, but already ..." or "And we are already at your age ...". And it seems that all around the children literally from the cradle can recite poetry, dance and put puzzles.

Some parents think this is because of their advanced parenting methods, but this is not always the case. It's just that all children are different, and early walking or early development of speech does not at all guarantee that at 10 years old this child will already master the school curriculum, and at 18 he will be officially recognized as a genius.

So we nod and smile - do not deprive your interlocutor of a reason to rejoice at the success of her baby.

2. Moms do everything on their own

Judging by the stories, this is a fairly numerous category of mothers who "never get helped", and at the same time they "do everything by themselves." Rest assured, these energizer moms simply don't exist.

They can "do everything" in one day, the second, the third, but it is impossible to live constantly in such a rhythm. It is likely that they do not take children to developmental classes regularly, but a couple of times a month, and at home instead of full cleaning the robot vacuum cleaner drives alone and the dishwasher hums (or the housekeeper still comes), and dinner will come from the nearest Cafe.

That being said, the work that they boast about also likely doesn't take very little time and isn't particularly profitable.

If you have kids, you will never do everything, no matter how much you study time management. Depending on your prioritization, you will simply be able to do one thing or the other. Or, as is usually the case, you will have assistants who will take over the household or childcare.

3. Their children are perfect

Mothers often brag about how they have raised disciplined children who don’t whine, don’t throw tantrums, don’t throw sand on other children - and are generally very obedient.

Such statements should be "divided by four." That is, perhaps the child is not really covered with sand, but the reason is in his temperament, and not in his mother's upbringing. Parents should remember that most of the achievements and good features of the child are only his own merit.

If another mother brings up her child in the same way, this does not guarantee that he will have the same achievements. So it is worth ignoring other people's boasting.

4. They do not include cartoons and do not sit with a child on the Internet.

These mothers can talk for a long time about how they work with the child using developmental methods, study the world around him with him, and generally do not leave him a single step. And cartoons are "evil" that their child does not face.

Well, to cool the narcissistic ardor of such a mother, you can express your deep sympathy to her. All mothers periodically sit with the child on the Internet and entertain him with cartoons in order to simply take a shower or go to the toilet. Or maybe just calmly drink tea or find out the latest news. And that doesn't make them bad and irresponsible at all.

5. Their children are very talented and enjoy going to classes.

Not the most interesting thing to do - listening to the pleasure with which someone else's child sculpts, draws and makes crafts, remembering at the same time, as your own only licked the paint from his fingers, painted the wall and shoved the modeling mass into the hair.

Think of the conversations of these mothers as a test of your patience and unconditional acceptance of your child. In no case do not even mentally compare him with some other people's children, because the neighbor always has "greener grass", and "the son of a mother's friend" is an unattainable ideal and a hero of memes.

It is unlikely that you will be invited to the exhibition of the masterpieces of the young talent of your neighbor on the site, therefore, be calm and treat the stories about other people's talented children philosophically.

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