If a child does not go to school or kindergarten, then parents (and most often mothers) find themselves practically in self-isolation, around the clock, one on one with the baby.
1. Be proactive
It is always easier to prevent another attack of children's whims than to listen to them later, to try to remain calm and find a way out of the situation. Whims are most often due to objective reasons: the child did not get enough sleep, is hungry, he is bored, cold / hot, tired, etc. Therefore, one must try to prevent such phenomena from bringing the child (and you) from yourself.
2. Prioritize in your favor
Often mothers simply do not allow themselves to spend time on their own needs, on rest, on taking care of themselves, even if such an opportunity arises. Moms are on the clean-cook-parent-walk-wash wheel and don't allow themselves to relax if all the homework isn't done.
Here the child is carried away by the game or drawing, for 10-15 minutes you have not been twitching - and do you waste this time on yourself? Rather, you wash pots and pans or clean the bathtub, put things in order. Remember that clean floors and tidied up toys will not comfort you if you burn out from constant denial of your needs.
3. Stick to the regime
The more stable the child's daily routine, the more predictable he behaves, which means you can plan where to grab 10-15 minutes for your business. Of course, force majeure happens, but on most days you still have some personal time.
4. Don't try to be a mother heroine
You can fulfill your heroic parental mission for a long time, clenching your teeth and pushing your own desires, needs and interests into the back burner, but who will be better from this? First, the child does not need it. He needs a happy, rested, smiling mother "in the resource". Secondly, the accumulated stress can result in neuroses, aggression, depression and other problems, from which the whole family will suffer.
Nobody requires you to be the perfect mother - if the baby is fed, clothed and safe, then you are already a great mother. If you feel that you are tired, then it is time to replenish the resource, and not to collect the remnants of strength and do more than you can. Yes, it is not necessary to specially develop the child, yes, even just playing with him is not necessary if you do not want and cannot at all. And you can't blame yourself for this, you are an adult, a person with your own needs and desires, and not a hired animator.
5. Teach your child that you have private time.
The sooner the baby gets used to the fact that the mother is sometimes busy or even leaves the house, leaving him with other adults, the easier it will be as he grows up. If you do not surround the child with overprotection, then he quickly gets used to playing and occupying himself on his own, while his mother is busy with something at home. And when he grows up - then you can agree in plain text that the next hour mom will not touch, she has business.
6. Organize "stuffing ideas"
It is impossible to sit and play with a child for hours. Therefore, use a strategy when you give an idea of what to do, help him for a while, and then smoothly move away so that he is amused himself.
7. Set aside time when you are fully devoted to your child.
That is, you do not look at the phone or TV at the same time, do not talk to someone on the phone, do not cook, do not clean, but you are involved in the interests of the child and are fully engaged in it.
8. Involve your child in household chores
According to the age of the child, you can teach how to wash floors, dust, prepare simple meals, you can bake holiday cookies together, at the same time go through the safety precautions in the kitchen, you can arrange a home beauty salon and also attract the baby to this, and at the same time bring yourself to order. Also, do not forget about physical activity: run the ball on the street with your child, do exercises at home. The more energy a child spends on physical activity, the calmer his games will be later.9. Change each other
Agree with your partner when only he is involved in the child, replacing you in this position. It shouldn't be a favor on his part: “Okay, I'll sit”, which needs to be begged. Let every day be regularly scheduled for at least 2-3 hours, when you are free from parenting and can do whatever you want.
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