As often happens, a man only needs consent to the wedding and money. Otherwise, little interest in his opinion
1. As little nerves as possible - including on the part of the bride
The bride wants the wedding to go without a hitch: so that there is a perfect hairstyle, perfect makeup, a dress, so that there is perfect weather, no one I was not late for a second, etc. And if something does not go according to plan - the brides explode with a storm of negative emotions or start crying that it’s a holiday spoiled.
And so it happens with many weddings: you start preparing with what you want to do "modestly and sincerely", and end with the bride's tantrum over the fact that the icing on the cake is not that shade of turquoise.
A man first of all wants his beloved to be happy and calm on this day. It's okay if something went wrong at the holiday. The less you devote attention and nerves to this, the sooner everything will be forgotten, and the holiday will continue.
In addition, such a stressful situation as a wedding perfectly shows how the future wife will behave in everyday life if trouble arises.
2. Moderate spending
Someone does not want to spend money on a wedding at all, while someone else is spending a fortune. Both options are normal, but directly depend on your capabilities (and not just desires). That is, borrowing money from friends and relatives, taking loans - this is definitely not about a man's vision of a wedding.
More often men like to manage money rationally. Does the bride want a holiday? Okay, we will organize, if possible, without plunging headlong into debt and loans. Better yet, we'll save some money - and go on a trip or make repairs.Do you want the groom to be happy with the wedding? Discard waste and really unnecessary waste.
3. Welcome guests
Brides often want to invite as many guests to the wedding as possible - after all, they need to show everyone the dress, and makeup, and manicure, etc. And I also don't want to offend distant relatives or not the closest ones. buddies. At the same time, even close friends can be "cut off" from the groom's side: they say, they have no place at such a holiday. The man, of course, will not like it.
Let the groom make a list of guests for his part and invite everyone he sees fit. Most likely, the list will be rather short. But the intimate holiday with the closest ones turns out to be family, sincere, cheerful and the warmest.
4. Moderate participation in the preparation of the holiday
There is a downside to the fact that they are not interested in the opinion of the groom when preparing for the wedding - this is when the bride, on the contrary, tries to attract him as much as possible. Let us repeat that a wedding is a celebration for her.
It is necessary to agree on a general concept with the groom (go to the altar or go on a picnic in the forest, relatively speaking), the scenario of the holiday and the musical accompaniment, menu, but not to impose on him the obligation to choose boxes for bonbonnieres, color of balloons, composition of flower arrangements and others little things.That is, a man's opinion is certainly important, but deep into the details that change 100 times during preparation, you should not immerse the groom. Better give your kind words to his idea with an unlimited bar or table football.
5. "Live" holiday
The bride wants the wedding to look beautiful in photos and videos. The groom wants to have fun. But not in the sense that everyone got drunk and got into a fight, but that it was a holiday with live communication, where everyone interesting and in which time flies by, and not just a solemn pretentious banquet with a pomaded leading.
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