Psychologists have named the secret of a happy relationship

It turned out that couples who called themselves happy, had similar psychological traits, and people who did not have such characteristics did not feel well in a family union.

The study was conducted by experts from the University of Rochester. 43 thousand people took part in their experiment. people in a relationship, the work has already been published in the publication Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science

How to be happy in a relationship?

• Watch your soulmate

Surprisingly, people who admitted that they often stalked (in the best sense) their lover were able to achieve maximum mutual understanding. We watched his habits, his reactions to stress and moments of happiness. You can observe both consciously and unconsciously.

The secret is that over time, a person manages to guess the mood of a partner and give him what (support or time for himself) that is required.

Where to begin?

Spend time together, such as watching movies together in the evenings. And you keep track of how what happens on the screen affects your partner. You may find out, quite unexpectedly for yourself, that your beloved one likes ginger cats or jokes about English stiffness.

• Be psychologically flexible

Psychological flexibility is the key to success not only in love but also in parenting. These families were more close-knit and less stressed on a regular basis. Flexibility leads to increased emotional support, the ability to get through difficult times together, without falling into aggression.

Where to begin?

Being psychologically flexible is easy when you know what it means. You must be open to new experiences of any kind, even negative ones. It is important to be able to appreciate the good moments, but also to find the good in the bad ones (at least in the fact that they have passed). Your inner values ​​should be constant.

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