Being an ideal grandmother is no less difficult than being an ideal mother - you need to please both the baby and his parents at the same time.
1. Grandmother does not indicate how to raise a child
This is perhaps the most difficult and impossible condition. After all, a grandmother has vast experience in raising at least one child. Therefore, he believes that this experience must be taken into account by young parents.
It is difficult to accept, but it is necessary: a young family will fill the bumps on their own and raise the child as they see fit. All advice is taken in the form of cautious recommendations, without reproaches and orders. It is also not necessary to check the implementation of the recommendations and be offended by the fact that they did not fulfill them.
2. The grandmother gives the child away at the first request of the parents
It sounds threatening, but many grandmothers really sin with this: they do not want to give the baby away from the supposedly best intentions, so that mom and dad can rest and go about their business.
Remember that in the head of a young mother, in response to your refusal to transfer her child to her, the protection mode from the enemy is activated, this is fraught with great conflict. Until mom and baby are separated from each other, all other people, including you, are considered outsiders.
3. Grandmother listens to parents' opinion
At this point, 99% of young families sighed heavily. Yes, it's hard to convey to your grandmother that you do not force-feed to the last spoonful, do not give water to a 4-month-old baby and carry it on handles on demand.
Dear grandmothers, please accept that these young parents are currently fully responsible for the life and health of the child, and therefore listen to them, please.Also, the ideal grandmother does not secretly feed the child. One can understand the desire to pamper a grandson or granddaughter with a sweet tooth, but a child may have allergies, tooth decay and other problems. And they will not have to be solved by you, but by the parents, who therefore prohibited certain products.
4. Grandma offers her help, but does not insist
Breaking into a young family's house with a persistent offer of help is a bad idea. How to ignore parental needs for help altogether.
If you can help on weekends or in the evenings (or maybe vice versa - in the afternoon), suggest. If the family refuses, this is not a reason for offense, after a while you can offer it again, for sure the young mother and father will need time alone.
5. The grandmother does not turn the child against relatives
If you do not like your daughter-in-law or son-in-law, this should remain purely your problem, which must be solved without involving the child. In no case should you set him up against his parents, and other relatives, discuss them with the child.
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