But a logical question arises: will the child then learn at all? And if something does not work out for him, then still not to help? He will not learn anything then?
Note that motivation for learning does not depend on how often you do homework with your child, check your diary, and scold for grades. More precisely, the right motivation should not come from under the stick. But today we'll talk specifically about homework. Do it with your baby or not?
1. Don't be eager to help if you are not asked
Explain to your child that all homework is his responsibility. He should try to make them himself as best he can. If something is completely incomprehensible or does not work out, you are always open for advice and support.
If a child asked for help, decide with him only a specific incomprehensible moment. If a child does not know where to start an essay, there is no need to write the entire essay for him. If he gets stuck on a task, you don’t need to solve a dozen problems with him, deal with one, and then let him.
2. Don't strive for the ideal
Your child's homework should be done by him and show his real skills and knowledge. Of course, an artist dad can draw a beautiful landscape for his son, and an engineer mom is an ideal drawing, you can do everything much better for a child, but what's the point? To get a high mark for your work?
Let the child do something imperfectly and not for the highest score, but he tries, learns, appreciates the time and effort spent, and not just transfers responsibility to the parents.3. Don't take full responsibility
As for the crafts, which have long been the subject of jokes and which parents usually find out about the night before they have to take them. If the child did not say in time that he needed to do some kind of craft, if he did not do it himself, but decided to throw responsibility on parents - then you don't need to tinker and glue something all night, if only the child does not receive two.
If you follow his lead, the situation will repeat itself - and more than once. And if he receives a deuce for an uncompleted task, then next time, perhaps, he will remember him in advance.4. Help your child organize
It's hard to start doing your homework if you have a mess on your desk, in things, and there is no clear schedule for the day. Procrastination sets in, the child is constantly distracted, and the further, the less desire to take up lessons.
What parents can do: Together with the child, create a daily routine in which a clear time is allocated for lessons (not before bedtime, but not immediately after school). It should also have a place for relaxation, active and quiet games, for additional activities. Also organize the child's workplace so that it is easy to maintain order, arrange things in different drawers, shelves, boxes, etc.
5. Don't push the child
Homework is just a way to reinforce what you have learned, not an end in itself. It should not be above the health of the child or your relationship with him. If a child does not understand the new material at school, then, of course, he does not want to take on his homework. Then it makes sense to go through the topic with him again, and let him do the homework himself.
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