If you do not like the holidays, perhaps subconsciously remember the conflicts that constantly arose at the table.
According to statistics, during holidays people really quarrel more often, and if a large company is gathered at the table, someone will certainly hurt someone. But there are some simple ways to avoid a conflict situation.
We respond correctly to uncomfortable questions
If you have adult children, they will get it (when will you get married? Have you found a girlfriend? Do you even have friends?), And if your marital status does not suit your parents, for example, you and your partner have not yet formalized a marriage or are divorced, then get ready yourself (when at the registry office? How long will you live in this apartment? Maybe it's time to find yourself someone?) The bottom line is that parents can ask questions very personal, tactless and right in front of everyone, how to react to them?Say that you do not want to discuss this topic here and now, and then suggest a new one.
It is advisable to talk to the children before the holiday, to explain that they are not obliged to reveal to their grandparents things that confuse them.
TOP-3 ways not to quarrel with family at the festive table / istockphoto.com
We do not touch the topic of education
Grandparents are very fond of giving advice on how to raise children. They know why the baby cries, why the baby doesn't listen to you, why the teenager started coming home later. Parents can begin to discuss the child even in front of him. Of course, such themes don't add to the festive mood. If you refuse to talk about it, you will surely hurt your loved ones. Try to correctly ask to leave this topic for another day, not for a holiday.
We give the right to our opinion
Children and parents may have different opinions on many issues. Let's say you're a vegan and your mom thinks it's some kind of fancy game. Do not argue and prove it at the table. Firstly, discussions will inevitably lead to a scandal, and secondly, have pity on your relatives, who will have to take sides.And there are no right and wrong in such disputes.
TOP-3 ways not to quarrel with family at the festive table / istockphoto.com
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