One child is not enough for you, but just right for your husband. What to do in this case?
Why doesn't the husband want a second child?
Many men fear they won't pull second child, will not be able to give him the welfare that the heir deserves. A man may worry about an unstable situation, possible dismissal amid a crisis, unemployment.The second child is not only additional expenses, but also the need to go on maternity leave for the wife.
If you think that this is exactly the reason, then blindly following your wishes is not an option. Talk to your husband and agree on what you will think about the second child when the instability is over. Surely a more favorable time will come!
Another reason for the unwillingness of the second child, the banal desire to live for yourself. This happens in men who are faced with problems in caring for their first child. Let's say a child was sick, cried, and demanded attention. The man does not want to experience it all again, he just started getting enough sleep.
It makes no sense to blame your husband for selfishness, but to promise that you will not limit his freedom and involve him in caring for a child is completely. But by doing this you yourself are driving yourself into a clear framework - all by yourself. Think about whether you want to raise your child like this?Psychologists note that the basis of the unwillingness to have a second child may also be the child's attitudes of a man.
For example, he grew up alone in a family and believes that this is the best option. Or, on the contrary, he had many brothers and sisters, so he did not get the attention of his parents. It is important for a woman not to dismiss the masculine “I don’t want”, but to debate.
Recall
- How long does it take to give birth to a second child?
- how to decide to have a second child?
- TOP 11 reasons why you need to have a second child.
