When do psychotherapists advise against contacting them

At some point in our country appeared myththat going to a psychotherapist is just fashionable, but completely useless. They say that people have come up with problems for themselves and are now trying to solve them.

In addition, this is an expensive "pleasure" - and therefore is considered a whim of the rich: a poor person is busy earning a living, he "has no time for depression."

As always, the truth is somewhere in between. On the one hand, psychotherapy really cannot solve absolutely all problems and some people go to a specialist "at the wrong address". On the other hand, every person, regardless of his income, may need psychological help.

There is a lot of talk about how to determine what you really need to see a therapist. But let's approach the question from the reverse side: in what situations do psychotherapists themselves advise not to go to them, because it is useless?

1. "Everyone ran - and I ran"

If nothing really bothers you at all, you live in harmony with yourself and others, you are satisfied with your relationships with other people, no one with the parties do not advise turning to a specialist (sometimes the person himself does not see his problem) - then there is no point in going to a psychotherapist, he will not look for you diagnosis.

If you feel that you have nothing to say, nothing bothers you - just do not waste your and other people's time, a normal specialist will not look for problems with you.

2. Go "for the company"

When someone you know has visited a therapist, and after that his life has improved, you may get the feeling that just go there - and you will be given a magic pill, told the recipe for happiness and wealth - and you will be completely happy with life. But this is not the case.

If you feel that there are problems, you are not coping with your life, emotions, feelings, fears, then you need to go. However, one should not expect instant and too drastic changes in life.

3. Go for ready-made advice

Many people get the impression that the therapist “does not do anything” - only talks and asks questions. As a result, they come to the conclusion that their situation was resolved, because they "helped themselves", and the therapist had nothing to do with it.

But the work of a psychologist or psychotherapist is a very delicate thing that is not so easy to consider from the outside. No one will give you ready-made advice: get married, divorce, have children, do not have children, quit, lose weight, fatter - etc. If a psychotherapist directly gives you a "recipe for happiness" - you should doubt his qualifications.

The psychotherapist only encourages the client to draw conclusions for himself and make decisions.

4. Expect "cheap and cheerful"

The course of psychotherapy can take from 2 months - and last for years, depending on the complexity of the problems and the person's condition. Accordingly, this will require large financial costs to pay for consultations. For this you need to be ready not to chase the immediate result.

If someone promises to solve your psychological problem "in a couple of sessions" and cheaply, then most likely he is simply cheating.

5. Convincing a psychotherapist of quackery

Many people consider the therapist's high pay as unreasonable and his methods unproductive. And then a person can come with one goal - to prove that "it does not work for him."

But if a psychological problem really exists and requires a solution, then the client and the psychotherapist should work in tandem, making mutual efforts to achieve the result. And a specialist will not fight a client who has come to accuse him of charlatanism - he is not obliged to endure it.

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