Many of us have lost our dear parents. Mom... dad... pain that cannot be endured. When you lose a loved one, when our parents leave us, we feel unbearable pain, disappointment, emptiness. But our parents don't die, they just leave. They cannot die, just as true pure love does not die.
We are all afraid of this. We are afraid that we are living, living, and one day suddenly there will be no dad or mom. This cannot be avoided, we will all face it.
Regardless of whether you lost your parents a long time ago or just recently faced pain and bitterness, you know that your life seems to be divided into two parts - "before" and "after".
An emptiness formed in the heart, no, not even a hole. Unbearable pain, which is said to subside over time. No, time does not heal, unfortunately, just over time we learn to live on with this pain. And do you know what we need to do? Continue to live and enjoy life, albeit with a hole in your heart. This is what our parents want for us. They want us to cope, and began to live on, to be their continuation.
One of the most difficult and even tough trials in our life is the loss of parents. Suppose you, perhaps, did not get along, cursed, could not find a common language in any way. Maybe you ran away from home to fulfill your dream, connected your life with a person who did not like your parents, did not call up often. It hurts you all the same, as well as those who, on the contrary, were in very good and close relations with their parents. This is because we are losing those who have been with us since the very first days of our lives. And now it is very difficult to accept that there are no more parents and to let go.
It was parents who were the first people we saw in this world. They taught us to speak, sit, walk, hold a spoon, taught us what is good and what is bad, taught us to read and write. They taught everything. Thanks to them, we were formed as we are now. They were saints!
Parents tried to make our stay in this world comfortable for us, they taught us to survive, fight, tried to raise us as worthy people. They were ready to give their lives for us, although, perhaps, sometimes they acted somehow wrong.
They were there when we were sick, wiped away our tears when we cried, they did everything to make us feel good. And now, when they are not around, we understand that there are no people in this world who fought for us, who helped us, cheered for us, admired us, scolded us, instructing us on the right path. But they are not there only physically!
They are with us, in our hearts, in our memory. It’s a shame that life is so arranged, that we have to say goodbye to the most dear and close people to us, to those for whom we were most dear, with those who were dearest to us! But we have no choice, there can be no other way. And each of us will have to drink this pain to the bottom. The wound in the heart will constantly bleed, especially in those moments when we hear a song that reminds us of our mother, when we suddenly find our father's old glasses in the apartment ...
It hurts most of all on family holidays, when you used to get together, but now you can't. And you will have to learn to live without them, it will be difficult, but you have to try. And our parents wanted you to be happy. They wouldn't want you to shed tears over their graves for years. They would like you to continue living, enjoying, having fun.
Immediately after the loss, it seems that the tears will never dry up. It seems that you have calmed down, and then suddenly, at the wrong moment, the realization comes that “my dad is dead” or “my mom is no more”. And again the tears, the pain, it seems, it will never end. You must cope and not let grief drag you to the bottom. Your parents gave you to this world to make it much better, to make you happy!
It hurts to lose your parents. But please, live on! Rejoice, be happy, enjoy life! This is what your parents who left this world would like! And remember that they will always be there, always support, and they see what is happening to you. So don't upset them, be happy for their sake!
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