Whom the child loves, so he behaves worst of all: explains the psychologist

But you yourself know a completely different child who behaves just awfully, does not listen to you and constantly pisses off his temper. Why is this happening, says psychologist Ekaterina Burmistrova

Features of the child's behavior

Many parents believe that literally every action of the baby is connected with themselves: if the baby is behaving badly, it means that mom and dad are somewhere underdeveloped. But sometimes it's all about the child himself and his attitudes.

Psychologists have already figured out one of them - the child behaves worst of all with people with whom he has developed the closest relationships. Mom, if she sees that the baby is naughty with her, remaining with the other most obligatory child in the world, should not be upset or discouraged.

• You have created a healthy relationship with your child.

There are situations when a child is obedient at home, but behaves differently with his grandparents.

This is where you need to worry: the child does not trust his own parents, perhaps due to the fact that he spends all his free time with the nannies.

Why does the child get on those he loves?

Most often this does not happen entirely consciously, the child simply feels free, ceases to control every word and because of this, sometimes enters the forbidden territory. Sometimes bad behavior is also caused by the peculiarities of the functioning of the child's psyche. Being next to adults, the child constantly repeats after them, is in a state of copying.

Children are insanely good at adapting to every adult.

But disruption can happen when a child has to quickly adapt to a new adult. Let's say he was at his grandmother's all day, and then returned home to his mother. At some point, a stupor sets in, from which the child comes out due to provocative behavior, whims, unwillingness to obey and obey.

As you can see, the mother's behavior does not matter at all, but it can help the baby to quickly overcome the stupor.

At the moment when the child begins to be capricious, it is advisable for the mother to withdraw (both emotionally and physically), and then push the child to the positive, for example, say that they were madly bored in his absence.

Parents, remember that it is normal for a child to behave differently with different adults.

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