Exclusive interview with singer Yulia Lauta (LAUTA), who will soon become a mother for the third time.
Julia, you are, of course, a conspirator. Close even your position was not noticeable. Were you "burned" by your subscribers?
No, my subscribers did not "burn" me. When I got a rounded tummy, I only showed my face on social media. No one suspected, even when I performed on stage in a spacious and voluminous dress that could inspire the idea of my pregnancy. After all, earlier all my concert costumes were tight and fitted. On the contrary, they began to write to me: "What a strange suit?" Nobody wrote about my pregnancy.
Even now, when I no longer hide my pregnancy and officially announced it, in the comments under my videos on TikTok they write that I have a false belly. My subscribers argue whether I have a belly or a real one. Many people cannot believe that you can move like this with a real tummy.
Why did you decide to hide an interesting situation?
When I had a short term - I hid my position. This is personal, and only concerns me and my loved ones. Now I have a third trimester and I can't hide my tummy. Changes are visible not only in the figure, but also in the face due to puffiness. I understood what I would need to say about my position firsthand, but I wanted to do it in a beautiful form and uncommon news feed.
This reason became the song "MAM" and the clipwhere I showed myself to be pregnant. For a long time I wanted to speak out on the topic of domestic violence and kidnapping, to draw even more attention to this topic, since the statistics on these cases are increasing daily. We did it through the video and the song, plus they showed me in a new position. Everything matched perfectly.
But after the video was released, they began to write to me that I had a cool image in the video and I believably got used to the role of a pregnant woman. Some people did not understand that I was really pregnant, and some still don’t believe me at all (laughs).
And what did you feel in the first seconds when you learned that you were pregnant for the third time: fear, joy, euphoria?
I reacted calmly enough to this news. This is my third pregnancy and I know how it goes and what will happen. I had neither fear nor confusion. I sat down and thought what to do with this, because I am actively developing my career. I compared the facts, how pregnancy can interfere with my career, can I pause, how to combine everything so that it is not hard and does not lose everything I have achieved. But the covid decided everything for me (smiles)... As they say, what is not done is all for the best. Everything began to be canceled and postponed: concerts, agreements... I planned to participate in the Laima Vaikule song contest, I was invited to an offline casting, but it was also postponed to 2021. I thought, “Well, that's great! I have a year to give birth to my third child. "
How, in fact, did you find out about pregnancy?
Like all women: there was a slight malaise, dizziness and nausea. I didn’t pay attention to it, and thought: quarantine, the regime changed, all day at home, I eat more than usual. Probably, this is how the body adapts to new realities. I did not attach any importance to this and went in for sports, as before. At the end of April, during an online training session, my trainer and choreographer Sasha Selivanova said: “Something is sticking out in your stomach, despite the fact that we work hard to pump the abs. Do you eat a lot, probably? " Then I realized that something was wrong. I took a test and found out that she was pregnant.
Perhaps, transformations are taking place in your body that you did not expect? Or, for example, transformations that were not in the previous two pregnancies ...
This pregnancy is easier for me than the previous ones due to my understanding and conscious approach to life. I try to enjoy everything that is happening around me, and to live all the moments consciously, according to the principle “here and now”.
From physical changes - of course, there is edema, but there is no escaping them. But all this can be experienced, because the main thing is mental and mental health.
What do you do during pregnancy?
I am just as active as I was before pregnancy. I ruled out heavy physical exertion, exhausting rehearsals in the hall, but sports and dancing remained in my life in a calmer mode - to move, disperse the blood and cheer myself up.
I ruled out flights and concerts in the third trimester, not only because of the coronavirus, but because I take care of myself and spend more time at home. Of course, there were rehearsals, recording of new material in the studio, vocal lessons and photo sessions. I will stay active as long as I can. I want to be energetic, and not lie at home pregnant.Also, my children do not let me get bored even in quarantine, because they require a lot of attention and care. Spending time with them takes a lot of energy, so after an active day with them, I'm ready to go to bed at 9pm.
Is the third pregnancy difficult for you? Or is it a new source of strength?
It's not hard. Pregnancy is not a disease. But I will not bend my heart by saying that you always feel cool and your body rejuvenates. You give your vitamins, minerals, calcium to the child and, naturally, you have less and less strength, but there is no such energy as before. When the tummy becomes large, shortness of breath appears and it is difficult to breathe. But these are all such trifles in comparison with the global mission that a woman performs during this period.
Pregnancy gives me the opportunity to slow down and think about where to lead my life next - what to change in it and add how I would like to live the next year. Now I have a year of spiritual growth. This will allow me to leap forward next year.
How did your children take the news of the upcoming addition to the family?
As children, they received this news with enthusiasm. They represent everything as a cartoon: the baby will be pulled out of the mother's tummy, and he will say “aha”. Until they realize their full responsibility, and want everything to happen quickly: “Mom, can you give birth earlier than necessary? How long can you wait? "
A month after the birth of the child, they will get tired of playing with him and they will begin to be very jealous. I already went through this with the first child when the second was born. The appearance of a younger baby is a great stress for a child: before, the mother belonged only to him, and then someone else appears. The elder David was very jealous when his brother was born, and for six months we talked with him on this topic, explained everything. If the elder has already gone through this, then the younger will have to get used to that now he is not the smallest.
Julia, considering that you already have experience in upbringing, do you think where and what you would have done differently?
Every year I want to bring up children in a new way with different methods. I am raising a child at 24 and at 30 - they are completely different people. I already know which methods work and which don't. Probably, with the first child I was much tougher, but now I am doing more and more softer and will do.
I try to develop in a child his individuality and communicate with him as with a friend on an equal footing, without any dogmas and the imposition of things, as it should be. No totalitarian attitudes like "Go to bed quickly!" I explain that tomorrow we need to get up early in the garden, so we need to go to bed early. I try to articulate and explain everything. I'll say right away that patience is not always enough. Children can infuriate anyone, but they are given to us to make us better and more patient, and to show us our weaknesses. Children are our best teachers.
It's no secret that every artist makes a difficult choice in the matter of motherhood. You don't have this: "Am I missing something important in my life?"
With previous pregnancies, I had this: how many interesting things in life, everyone has something going on, and I'm sitting pregnant…. Now everything is completely different: I have changed my consciousness, and I do not have such that something is happening for everyone, but I sit in the waiting position. Now I am the happiest person! Many artists are building a career, and then they want to jump into the last carriage and have children at 40-45 years old. Not everyone succeeds. I am glad that I have now been given one of the global missions of every woman.I also have a lot of time to read, think, reflect - this is very important for the springboard next year. After all, chasing and running without a clear understanding of where and why will not help you to reach your goals.
Have your taste priorities changed? For example, many stars in the first pregnancy wanted chalk, in the second - more meat. And you?
I am drawn to healthy elements - I want to eat more vegetables and fruits. I drink freshly squeezed juices every day: not one glass, but up to two liters a day. For some addictions like chalk, egg shells, etc. I am not drawn now, and thank God! But sometimes it pulls for salty - fish, cucumbers, caviar. Doctors recommend giving up salty so that there is less swelling, but I cannot yet. When the body demands, it is impossible to refuse (smiles). I also want everything sour. In ordinary life, I don't really like sour things, but now I want green sour apples, grapefruit, lemon, unsweetened pineapple.
Perhaps there was some disgust?
There is a disgust for alcohol and coffee. I am a coffee lover and can drink 3-5 cups a day. And now, on the contrary, I want tea, although in ordinary life I drink tea extremely rarely, only when I feel unwell or have a cold. But this happens in my third pregnancy, when I really do not want coffee.
What about sports, training?
My workouts and hard sports have remained in pre-pregnant everyday life. They will return after childbirth, and now I'm doing Pilates, stretching, slightly pumping up my butt and legs with various exercises for pregnant women, and also dancing. Although many say that in the eighth month it would be worth stopping dancing, but it gives me a good mood and tone. I also love the pool - the water relaxes perfectly!
Quite recently you presented the video "MAM", where you starred already pregnant. Was it hard, some kind of discomfort?
Of course, filming in a position is harder than usual, but for the reason that it is harder to do everything, even to walk. We thought everything in advance so that it was as comfortable as possible and without damage to health - the locations were not on the street, but indoors. Filming began at 6 am, and during pregnancy you always want to sleep, but you also need to shoot. I turned off a couple of times for 20 minutes and slept. I encouraged myself and promised that after filming I would sleep the whole day (smiles).
I liked swimming in the pool, but only the first hour, not the next three. When we finished shooting in the pool, it seemed to me that the water was even in my head. But these are all the little things and everyday life of the artist that you can endure.
It was important for me to star in the video, being pregnant, because the song has an important theme for every woman. Plus, I wanted something important and fundamental to remain in memory of my third pregnancy, so that later I could show the baby that while still in the tummy, he participated in the creative process.
Now in the country there is a coronavirus, quarantine. Do you have to infringe on yourself in some way?
It seemed to me that we all infringed upon ourselves in March, when we were all abruptly closed at home and it was impossible to go anywhere. Now you can move more freely, which is good news.
I do not prejudice myself: I clearly understand that I need to be careful, and some trips to the restaurant with my friends can be postponed for a while. I try to spend more time at home, and I only go to rehearsals at the repbase. If it's Pilates or vocal lessons, I ask the teacher to come to my house. If necessary, I leave home, but I try not to attend mass events in this position and during such a period. But I would not say that I infringe on myself in this. This is my deliberate choice, not an infringement.
My everyday life is spent in work and household chores. I postponed my entire social and public life by 2-3 months. As soon as the coronavirus and quarantine end - then I will get in shape after giving birth and go out into the light (smiles).
Studies show that pregnant women become infected with coronavirus infection more often than non-pregnant women. How do you take care of yourself?
I just found out that pregnant women are more likely to get infected... Any person can get infected - both pregnant and not.
How do I take care of myself? I go everywhere in a mask and gloves, I try not to visit crowded places where there is a large crowd of people, I walk more in the fresh air. If I have a dance class or recording in a studio, then I ask you to ventilate the room for 15 minutes before my arrival.
I also recommend one cool remedy to everyone: 1 drop of hydrogen peroxide in 10 teaspoons of water. You need to gargle with this solution after crowded places, you can drip into your nose, moisten a cotton swab and put it in your ears at night. Peroxide is a powerful antiseptic and kills all germs.
I try to take care of myself, but I have no fear of getting infected. I'm not suspicious, but I do certain things that will help me stay healthy. I adjusted myself that I have a strong immunity, because I protect not only myself, but also the baby inside.
