The child does not want to share: what parents can and cannot do

Almost all children go through periods when they categorically do not want to share things or toys with other children and strive to make everything "theirs". There is nothing critical about this, but parents need to properly respond to such behavior.

Why doesn't the child want to share at all?

1. He does not fully understand that the toy will be returned later. For him, the situation looks like it will have to be given up forever.

2. If you have to share food, sweets, they will not be returned back here. Accordingly, the child simply does not want to part with the coveted candy, for example. This is quite logical.

3. Negative experience: if the child has already given a toy to someone, but it has not been returned or broken, then he will not want to repeat this.

4. The child just loves the toy and does not want to let go of it. Each person has his personal favorite things that he would not want to give to anyone.

5. The child does not like the one with whom they are forced to share. You don't share things with the first person you meet, do you? Likewise, children are not at all ready to share based on what the other child asks for.

How can adults not react?

1. Shame, scold, call a greedy person, threaten that no one will be friends.

For the child, the situation is already stressful - they wanted to take away from him what was dear to him. He did not want to give his thing, because there was no sufficient reason for it, and in return he received reproaches from his parents and began to feel even worse.

2. Not react to a child's request to return a toy

Toys are the property of the child. You gave them to him, so he should be in charge. If a toddler demands that another child give the toy back, then you will have to ask for it back. And it is absolutely impossible to give toys without asking your child if he is ready to give away for good.

How should you react if your child doesn't want to share?

1. Preventing conflicts. On a walk or on a visit, you should take a few toys with you, so that there is an "exchange fund" for interacting with other children. It is better not to take the most adored and favorite toys on the street at all.

2. We teach to respect other people's property. In addition, in order not to give his own, the baby must understand that it is impossible to touch someone else's. If you want your property to be respected, show respect for someone else's.

3. We stand on the side of the child. You must first of all protect the interests of your own child. Yes, it is uncomfortable if another baby asks for a toy, starts crying, etc. - but these are the problems of his parents, how to distract him.

4. Remember that this too will pass

Closer to the age of 7, children experience total "possessiveness", they become more responsive, better understand the feelings of other people, and are more willing to share.

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