Why teenage rudeness can be useful

When a child becomes a teenager, many parents grab the head: he does not obey, is rude, does evil, etc. However, this period is a normal developmental stage. The child grows up, begins to move away a little and become independent. And, yes, he no longer listens to your every word.

But if you want to educate a self-sufficient person who is able to make decisions, take responsibility, have your own opinion, be able to say "no" when something does not suit you, then adolescence is just about everything, this is the stage where your relationship with the child depends on the behavior and reaction of the parents for the whole a life.

Of course, it is very unpleasant if the child is rude, rude and does the opposite. This makes him angry and annoying: he is still a child that you must provide and for whose safety and well-being you are responsible. But it's useless to try to make a goodie out of him.

How to get along with a teenager?

1. Respect personal boundaries, give him his own space and time.

2. Trust in any situation.

3. Accepting the child as he is, with counter-rudeness, you will not fix anything.

4. Be ready to support and listen if the child addresses a problem (no notations).

5. Remember that this period will also pass (as the crisis went through 3 years and all other difficult periods).

Remember that teenage anger and rudeness does not mean that the child is bad. (or that you are bad). In this way he tries to win back his independence, his right to his own decisions and mistakes. So the child is looking for himself and his place in this world.

As with a younger child, emotions cannot be denied. This is harmful and has negative consequences. You just need to teach how to express them correctly. If you yourself are rude to a teenager, order, threaten, then you will receive similar statements from him.

Make it clear to the child that you understand his anger and that this is normal. At the same time, there should be boundaries: obscene words, insults are strictly prohibited. At both sides.

A home for a child should be a safe placewhere he is always accepted and understood, where he can hide from any problems, find consolation and support, and not notations, criticism, phrases like "And I told you."

Do not force your communication on your child. He himself will show that he is ready to talk or spend time together, if there is no negative and moralizing on your part. But sometimes he really needs to be alone.

Don't break your teen's personal boundaries. Do not rummage in his things, bags, pockets, do not read notes and diaries, phone contents. Everyone has the right to a personal territory, into which he admits those whom he considers necessary. There is no need to shift his things and put things in order. Let the teen's room be completely under his responsibility. And by the way, don't forget to knock before entering.

Explain to your child that with growing up comes a certain responsibility. He wants to go for a walk in the evening - well, this is his decision. But on condition that it will tell you once an hour where it is and whether everything is in order. It's not difficult, and you won't bother him with calls.

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