5 tips for a young father

When a man dreams of children, then often sees them already matured, with whom you can go fishing and chase the ball. But from the birth of the baby to these events, years will pass, and dad cannot stay away all this time.

Here are 5 tips for young dads to remain a full family member and not a "bystander."

1. Take the child on yourself more often

A woman was not born with the magical ability to soothe, lull, or entertain a baby, change his diaper and monitor his well-being. All this is developed "in combat conditions" - you have to learn on the fly.

And dad's task is to learn how to change clothes for the baby, bathe, put to bed, etc. in the same way. If the child woke up early in the morning, and your wife was mortally tired and all night she got up and fed him - then give her at least a little sleep.

Let the baby eat - and go with him to meet the dawn, prepare breakfast and coffee, let the young mother rest at least a little.

2. Ask your wife about her needs

Remember that for a young mother such basic human capabilities as going to the shower or toilet are not available, when you want, eat or sit, when you want - her time and schedule is completely controlled by a small dictator.

Therefore, take the initiative yourself: take care of the child and let the woman go according to her needs, or just go for a walk alone (a pipe dream of all mothers).

Yes, a child can become capricious without a mother and behave imperfectly - but this is your child too, and you cannot push all responsibility for him only on a woman.

3. Do not reproach a woman for not sleeping when the child is sleeping.

A frequent complaint to young mothers: why didn't you sleep with your child, but sat on the phone, now don't complain of fatigue.

That short time when the baby sleeps is the only opportunity for mom to go about her business. And this: shopping or choosing something over the Internet, cleaning, personal care, cooking often goes here, putting things in order, washing, ironing, communicating with friends - and everything about everything is about 20 minutes before the next awakening baby.

If you were chained to a radiator and released a couple of times a day for 20 minutes, would you waste that time sleeping?

4. Help the woman switch

Offer her leisure options and plan it yourself. Believe me, a woman does not have more strength, time and imagination for this. She is exhausted and does not want to figure out how you two can get out of the house and have fun.

A young mother already has to make a lot of decisions during the day, fully responsible for the child's life. But she also needs leisure. A specific option from you - like purchased movie tickets and agreements with grandmothers - would be the perfect offer.

5. Interested in a child

And not only by his success in keeping his head up, but also by his health, vaccinations made and planned, and visits to doctors, favorite toys, and behavioral features. Get involved in all of this.

Know which diapers are better and which are worse, what size of clothes the child wears, how to dress him at different temperatures, what to take with you for a walk, etc.

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