How to properly talk to your teen about hygiene

Yesterday's cute baby suddenly became untidy teenager with a dirty head, uncut nails and a smell of sweat. Parents will no longer be able to wash and put it in order with their own hands - the option remains to talk about the problem. But how to do it tactfully and efficiently at the same time?

Why are teenagers so often unkempt?

1. The child has not yet realized age-related changes

Puberty and the transition from child to adolescent for everyone happens at one time and often takes the child by surprise. He seems to know that a beard will grow on his face and hair in his armpits, but he completely forgets that all this requires careful care and keeping clean.

2. The child is too busy proving his independence

He does not tolerate someone telling him when to wash his hair, take a shower and cut his nails, because he is already like an adult. His hairstyle is his business, his smell is nobody's business. The only problem is that it concerns. And an unkempt appearance and "unwashedness" is a direct path to problems in relations with peers.

3. The child protects his boundaries

This point comes from the previous one. If there is no trust in relations with parents, if the child has to "win back" his boundaries, then he makes it available for the given moment in ways: "marks" the territory of his room with scattered dirty clothes, looks and smells contrary to the hopes and persuasions of parents etc.

How to act for parents

1. Teach the ability to take care of yourself

This is a basic skill that needs to be re-learned during adolescence. Bloggers will teach your child to paint and get tattoos, but few will tell you that your hair needs to be washed. more often than before, taking a shower at least once a day is a must, and your breath no longer smells in the morning violets.

2. Speak tactfully and without reproach

No teenager will like being told to wash, but keeping quiet is also not an option if one person's uncleanliness affects the life of the whole family. Conclusion: you need to negotiate, hint, ask, but not order.

3. Come to terms with part of the mess

A teenager should have a "corner" with his rules - it can be a room or part of a room, but only he is responsible for cleanliness and order there. Accordingly, parents do not run to wash, clean and iron if it suddenly turns out that guests will come to the child or he has no clean things left.

4. Offer specific help

More effective shampoo, going to a beautician or dermatologist, high-quality deodorant, hair removal products, panty liners - all this a teenager receives if attention is paid to his hygiene and neatness in time parents. It’s pointless to blame, give a concrete solution and, yes, sponsor its use.

5. Agreenmcz as an adult

The teenager considers himself an adult and strives to prove it in every possible way. Accordingly, in matters of hygiene and order, you can communicate with him as with an equivalent adult member of the family.

If he is an adult and independent, then let him carry his dirty things to the washing machine, throw out the garbage from the room, wash himself - so that there are no unpleasant odors and insects in the house. And this is not your order as a parent, but the rules of living together for adults.

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