Do you think a child needs special smart toys and activities for full development? First you need to stop making these mistakes.
1. Permanent "no"
The child, in fact, cannot do everything. You can only sit quietly and read a book, but running through puddles, scattering or tearing something, creating a little chaos is impossible right away.
Try to reduce the number of restrictions, leaving only those on which life and health depend. Unless, of course, by his actions the child does not harm others.
Only by experimenting and trying something new does the child really develop.
2. Don't let me get bored
Many parents worry that the child will get bored. Therefore, they themselves come up with games for him, fill up with toys and developmental activities.
But in fact, the main conditions for development are moderate boredom. The kid himself will find something to do, be sure. If you do not teach him the opposite with your overprotection. What to do if you are bored - these are the first steps towards making independent decisions, a very important skill, which is better not to interfere.3. Physical punishment
Research shows a direct relationship between physical punishment and child's developmental delay. Never raise your hand on the child.
Physical trauma will heal, but emotional trauma will stay with him for life. The child should not think that hitting another person, especially a small and weak person, is normal.
Having received a portion of aggression from you, he will go to take out his counter-aggressive feelings on other children or animals.
4. Protect from "adult" affairs
Of course, it is not always necessary to let children know about the details of their problems, but even kids can "read" the mood of mom and dad and understand that not everything is in order.
If the child is worried and has questions, try to explain briefly and according to his age, what is the reason.Thus, you will develop his emotional intelligence, ability to empathize.
5. Protect from the whole world
Parents need to keep their child safe, but how can he truly experience the world without knowing it from the bad side too? It is impossible to grow up adapted to life if you constantly be in sterile conditions, do not communicate with anyone, you do not knock a single knee down during your childhood, etc.
Allow your child to make mistakes in a reasonable and safe way. First love, friendship, disappointment, attempts to find oneself in this world - the child must go through all this on his own, learn from his own mistakes, and not your notations.
6. Anticipate desires
Psychologists keep reminding that this is one of the main reasons why modern children start talking later. They just don't need it.
Parents surround their children with such attention and such care, they try to anticipate any desire in advance that there is no need to speak out. You can poke your finger, or you can do nothing at all - the parents themselves will offer 100 options.
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