What children will remember when they grow up

Most childhood memories, fortunately or unfortunately, will be erased when your toddlers grow up. But they will definitely remember a few things.

And this is what will shape their course in relationships with other people and in building their own family.

So, what will your children remember?

1. Time spent together

A person needs a person first of all, especially a small one. And it is joint walks, games, entertainment with parents that the baby will remember for life (albeit not all).

But the two hundredth donated toy and the next sweets, which modern children want, will not be remembered at all.

So it's time to put your smartphone aside and not try to film everything that your child is doing while checking news, mail and replying to messages.

The time when all the attention of the parents belongs to the child cannot be replaced by anything, it is priceless and very important.

2. Praise

Don't be afraid to spoil your child with praise. Who else can say that he is proud of him?

Express your feelings in different words: "I love you", "I am proud of you", "You are a wonderful son", "You have helped our whole family a lot", "You are a real friend", etc.

Show your child that he is individual, he is important, needed, and you appreciate him.

3. How do you deal with difficult situations

Are you shouting? Are you losing your temper? Or are you acting calmly and rationally? The child will remember your actions very well and will copy them in subsequent situations.

Therefore, when you feel that patience is bursting (in any situation, not only in relation to a child) - always think that a pair of attentive eyes is looking at you and learning how to solve problems.

That is why, when we grow up, we begin to speak with "phrases" of our parents. We absorb and remember them from childhood. Therefore, we turn to screaming or fall into spanking - all this was in our own childhood.

4. How do you feel about your partner and other adults

The mom-dad relationship model will be the foundation for your child's future relationships with others. Cruelty, reproaches, mockery, quarrels, scandals - all this will not pass without a trace.

Such things are strongly imprinted on the psyche and subconscious of the child - and then they need to be eradicated together with the psychotherapist. An example of a loving family where everyone cares about each other, understands and accepts is a really worthwhile example.

And even if mom and dad have separated or one of the parents has never been in the child's life, you should never set the child up categorically against the one who offended you.

Do not gossip in front of your child or discuss negatively with other adults. Firstly, the child will spread this information all over the world, and secondly, this is a bad example to follow.

5. The time when you weren't around

If your parents are not around, this is not always a bad thing. Everything, of course, depends on the situation and the child himself. Someone is easier to endure separation from their parents, someone is harder. But absolutely everyone remembers her.

Moderate parental separation can even be beneficial for the child, he becomes more adult and independent.

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