Moms are usually more attached to children than dads - this is completely natural. But fathers do some better.
What do fathers do better than mothers?
Increase the child's self-esteem
Both mom and dad, of course, love their children and praise them. But it is Dad's approval that is valued more highly - perhaps because you hear it much less often.
Dad acts as such an independent evaluator and does not lavish praise and compliments as much as mom does not kiss babies for every little achievement.
Dad's praise must always be earned. And he rarely intervenes with the help - he will allow the child to achieve everything himself. This teaches the child independence, purposefulness, and the praise itself increases his self-esteem and a sense of his own worth.
Play on equal terms
Only dads are able to fall into childhood and frolic with all their hearts on the football field or in a puddle with the child.
Mom, of course, can also play, but she constantly remembers the consequences, the daily routine, the heap of household chores and worries, and therefore it is not easy to fully relax.Dad can turn almost any activity into an educational game that will not be boring. And in a carefree game, dad can teach both the rules of survival in the wild and physics.
Instill discipline
If dad is scared, it's not very good. The father, after all, must be a fair arbiter, not a "scarecrow" who threatens a child for disobedience.
But dad, unlike mom, has a good separation of discipline from emotions. Fathers know how to restrain their words and be really strict, and not follow the lead of childish manipulations.
They teach to play sports
Dad is football, basketball, boxing, wrestling, skiing, hiking. Mom can also instill sports skills, but it is always more interesting to compete with dad in strength and speed.
And dad usually has more energy than mom.They teach courage
Mom always insures in advance - when the child is not even close to a dangerous situation. Hyper-care is also almost always about mom.
With dad, the child learns to take risks, rely on himself and expand the boundaries of possibilities.
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