"You won't leave the table until you finish eating!"
By forcing a child to finish eating, that is, to overeat, parents deprive him of awareness, freedom of choice, in addition, they reward him with poor health, drowsiness, loss of strength and obesity.
Better to say, “Here's your lunch. Eat as much as you like. There is a supplement if you want more. "
"People are looking at you!"
This is a way to raise a child dependent on other people's assessments. Having matured, such a person will look back at the opinions of others and limit himself in the free manifestation of his will and spontaneity.
"I do not love you!"
The scariest words a child can hear from their parents is the phrase "I don't love you anymore." The kid, hearing such a phrase from the closest and dearest person, perceives it unequivocally: "Mom no longer loves me, she does not need me, I am bad." This is a strong psychological trauma for the baby, which can lead to serious consequences.
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Words “no / not” (don't run, don't shout and any other verb with “not”) - forget forever
Children too often hear the word “no” in their lives. And sooner or later this will lead to complexes. Therefore, we advise you to rephrase the sentence from negative to positive.
How to do it? Just say "Please walk a little" instead of "Don't run." This will correct the child's behavior without criticism.
"You see, your brother / sister ate everything, but you didn't"
Children cannot be compared to anyone. In this case, there is also competition between brothers and sisters. Consequences: fights and constant quarrels. And no matter what the age difference between children!
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