If a child has adapted in kindergarten, from time to time he still protests and does not want to go there.
What are the reasons for such hatred of kindergarten? This is partly due to the mistakes of adults.
1. Too hasty fees
Children terribly do not like to rush, they choose clothes for a long time, they want to have a leisurely breakfast. If nervous parents are fussing around, the kindergarten begins to be associated with worries, nervousness of mom and dad, scandals due to the fact that someone is late somewhere.
What to do? Set aside enough time to get ready in the morning so that you don't have to constantly push your child and stress the whole family.
2. Irregular attendance at kindergarten
If the mother does not work or her grandparents periodically come to the aid of her, then the child's visit to the kindergarten may be interrupted. For example, it became a pity to wake up - left at home, grandmother arrived - left at home. Add to this the "off" days when the child is sick. And as a result, all adaptation must be started almost from the beginning.
What to do? Take to kindergarten every day except for illness. Do not give in to your own laziness or childish whining.
3. Negative attitudes
If you scare a child with a kindergarten, then by itself it turns out that he does not like to go there. For example, you say that in the garden they will not be "coddled", that they will have to eat what they give, "they will not ask if you want to or not", "it is forbidden to use diapers in the garden", "but how in the garden you will be without dad and mom ", etc. As a result, in the child's appearance, the kindergarten becomes a terrible place where there are no parents, nothing gives a damn about you and is constantly forced to do something, or even share toys.
What to do? To say only positive things about kindergarten: that there are a lot of toys, funny friends, etc.4. Negative reviews of caregivers and the group
If with a child you allow yourself to speak badly about educators, other children and their parents - then the child remembers all this well, and he gets the impression that everyone in the garden is stupid and bad. And he can easily convey your words while in kindergarten.
What to do? Do not express your displeasure in the presence of a child.
5. Care "in English"
If you try to escape from kindergarten so that the child does not see the very moment of leaving, then you only make it worse for him. Yes, perhaps the baby will cry, saying goodbye to you, but gradually he will adapt to this too. And if you run away, it will seem to him that you have left him forever - this is much more stress for the child.
What to do? Introduce rituals of farewell and greeting. One you do when you leave the garden, the second when you pick up the baby. It is important to do both with a smile, and not with an anxious or even tear-stained face. If the mother smiles, it is a signal for the baby that everything is fine.You will also be interested to read:
- the main mistakes of parents during the adaptation of the child to kindergarten
- when the child can go to kindergarten after illness
- 5 rules for raising children in kindergartens in France
