Even such a seemingly pleasant thing as a gift can ruin the festive mood.
1. Gifts take a lot of your time and nerves.
If, when thinking about the upcoming holiday, you are most worried about the topic of gifts, if it makes you anxious, if you worry a lot, that you will buy a bad gift or you will not be able to afford to buy everything you would like, then you need to reconsider your attitude towards the New Year presentations. Advertising tells us that the best gift for the New Year is gadgets, household appliances, jewelry, and even apartments. But actually it is not.
Not every person can afford such expensive gifts, especially if many people need to congratulate. And it would be just as wrong to expect that you yourself will be presented with something very expensive for this holiday. New Year and Christmas are primarily family holidays. This is the time for charity work, spending time together, family dinners, but not for the hassle of "how to buy 20 expensive gifts for each relative and not be left without pants."Don't let the advertisements tell you that the holiday won't take place without an expensive gift. The main thing is that the present is made from the bottom of our hearts and takes into account the lifestyle of the person to whom you are giving (that is, we don’t give alcohol to teetotalers, chocolate to those losing weight, but souvenir figurines for lovers of minimalism).
2. Your gifts oblige
When preparing a gift, consider its value and whether the gift will be embarrassing. For example, your financial affairs have gone uphill, you bought expensive gifts for close friends and are looking forward to when they open them and shine with happiness. But in the end, the opposite happens. If a person knows that he has prepared a box of chocolates for you as a gift, and at the same time received from you, conditionally, a smartphone, then he will clearly not feel comfortable.
When people receive expensive gifts, they feel that they are expected in return for a present of approximately the same value, or as some kind of particularly loyal attitude - that is, they feel obligated to you. Next time, they will try to simply avoid meeting you during the holiday period, so as not to buy an expensive gift in return.
3. Gift bought for social networks
Some people post every step they take on social media. And they may even brag about what gifts they bought for the New Year. If, when choosing a gift, you first of all think about whether it will look good in a story, then obviously this is the wrong approach to choosing it. Do not worry if someone you know or just famous bloggers post photos with mountains of stylishly decorated gifts, and you cannot do the same.
Remember that people who flaunt their "successful success" often just infuriate others. Focus on your own peace of mind and harmony in life, take a selfie with your loved ones near the tree, dressed up together - it will be a much more pleasant memory than a waste of nerves comparing yourself with others.
4. You are giving an expensive gift to someone with financial difficulties
If you know in advance that the person to whom you are preparing a gift is experiencing temporary financial difficulties, do not give expensive presents. This will make your loved one even more acutely aware of their unpleasant situation. Give something that can really come in handy in the current situation, or a gift whose cost is not obvious: for example, a subscription to a theater.
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