Low self-esteem is the scourge of many women of our time. What can you say about your self-esteem? What is it - underestimated, adequate, or do you consider yourself the best? In order not to go far, I asked around my friends, and for one thing and men. Alas, many of my friends know not by hearsay what low self-esteem is. For many, the perception of oneself depends on the conditions - if not for my belly after childbirth, if not for my three feathers, from which I cannot make a normal hairstyle... You can continue indefinitely.
Interestingly, none of the men reported poor self-esteem. Men are interesting people, they can even be proud of their beer belly. And for women - give a reason to dig deeper into themselves. Of course, men also have negative self-perception, this is understandable.
Let's take a look at some of the behaviors inherent in women with low self-esteem. Of course, all these points happen and with adequate assessment, from time to time. But at low, more often, more intense, and for some, it is constant.
Comparing yourself to others
People tend to compare themselves to someone else. It's all about measure and adequacy. Women with low self-esteem constantly live in this comparison, and more often than not they lose. And their figure is not the same as Anya's, and their nose is big, unlike Sveta, and... Continue on your own.
There is another type of comparison, when a woman, comparing herself to another, constantly notes her advantages. She is looking for qualities in herself that are better. Looks for the flaws of the one with which she compared herself. And this speaks not of high self-esteem, but low. Self-assertion at the expense of others is characteristic of those who admit or are afraid to admit their weaknesses.
Don't compare yourself with anyone! This is utopia.
Inability to accept compliments
Nice words and compliments must be able to accept. You should be tempted to say thank you and smile. And if you dismiss compliments, this is not a normal position and perception of yourself.
- This dress suits you so well! - said Lena.
- It just hides my fat belly / Yes, he is already 7 years old / Only my legs are crooked / Come on! - said Vika.
What can we say? Vicki clearly has low self-esteem. You could just say thank you and enjoy the compliment. Vika, don't do that!
Guilt
Low self-esteem is often accompanied by such nasty and disgusting feelings of guilt. A destructive feeling that can lead to psychosomatics, and this is no joke to you! A woman feels like a bad mother, a mistress, a weak link in the work collective, which she fails. No need to cultivate guilt in yourself!
It's okay to feel guilty when you are wrong. But it doesn't have to cover you totally, be intrusive. You need to be able to relax, reduce your self-demands. Stop wanting to meet other people's expectations. Working with guilt is tremendous, especially if it has been in you for years.
Concentration on flaws
We all have advantages and disadvantages. Nobody is perfect. But women with low self-esteem perceive their shortcomings painfully. Their focus is shifted precisely on the minuses. The most interesting thing is that everything is quite subjective, for someone your shortcomings are the real advantages.
Don't hate your crooked legs, because it's so great that you can walk! What a trifle it really is. It is difficult to understand and realize this while you are doing well. You can rave about fat, criticizing your legs, nose, short full fingers, thin hair, but when God forbid more difficult times come in life, you will understand what little things these are. Please learn to love yourself, accept yourself, take care of yourself!
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