Before getting married, people get to know each other better, rub in, acquire some common habits of their own. Psychologists recommend trying to master some skills even before the wedding, with which even crises 3, 7, etc. will not be scary. years.
Habits Every Couple Should Have
Sleep in one bed
No matter how some couples claim that, falling asleep in different beds, they do not spoil their family life, psychologists say the opposite. They also recommend even sleeping under one blanket, if you miss it, buy a large one! And be sure to fall asleep, touching each other, you can embrace, or you can just barely hold hands. This skill will still come in handy when you are expecting a baby. After all, it will be uncomfortable for you to sleep in an embrace, and holding hands is very good.
Shared plans
Always discuss your plans, even just the next day or the weekend. This is very important for women, this is how a comfort zone is created, because if you know in advance how and what will happen, you begin to feel much more confident. If spontaneous decisions are more to your taste, then talk more often about your plans for the distant future.
Efforts for the second half
No relationship will last long if only one does something for them, and the other just takes it for granted. Just in addition to delicious dishes, gifts and surprises, do not forget to watch your appearance. If during the period of your meetings before you were just perfect - a slender, well-groomed girl with beautiful manicure and makeup, and the guy is pumped up, clean-shaven with a proud posture. Why don't you keep supporting yourself now?
It's unfair that a man grows his belly, and a woman stops painting and styling. Well, it is clear that we fall in love not only with the appearance, but we must try for our half!
Financial habit
If it takes about 20-30 days to form any other habits, then with financial ones it is much longer and more difficult. Therefore, you need to learn how to save 20% of all your income even before the wedding. This is useful, because then money will come in handy for a vacation by the sea, purchase of something, repair. So 10% of the saved money will just fit for long-term needs, and another 10% will be untouchable. They should remain so for at least 3 months, ideally six months. So you will be calm that, if something happens, you always have an economic cushion.
Wise showdown
And the wisdom is that when you discuss the problems that have arisen between you, you need to avoid condemnation, but talk about yourself. Fights happen even in healthy relationships. According to psychologists, if the lovers do not swear at all, it means that they do not care at each other for a long time. But in normal relationships, these quarrels are, it is just that people with the mind resolve everything. There is no need to be silent and wait for everything to pass by itself, because the insult will accumulate. Do not try to shift all responsibility and blame for the ongoing quarrel onto the shoulders of your partner. Do not judge in any way. Less pronounce the word "you", and better not say it at all!
Do not try to hurt your partner more painfully, this will not lead to a reasonable decision and a way out of the conflict. Look, you have to say not like this: "Stop throwing your socks around", but like this: "I'm tired of constantly collecting your socks." I am tired, I feel uncomfortable, I feel sad, I feel, etc. So the acuteness of your conflicts will be extinguished, and you will understand each other better and make peace faster!
Love and understanding to you!
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