I already wrote that strict parents grow up successful children. But this does not mean that you need to apply physical punishment to your child. So what to do, shout? Many parents are faced with the fact that their child begins to be rude, rude and argue, well, how not to break loose? Experts recommend a little change in the approach to education so that there is no need to be frustrated!
7 rules for parents on parenting
Do not Cry
Yes, this is the rule, do not even start yelling at the child, because then do not stop. If parents constantly scold their child, then he begins to feel unloved, unnecessary. Indeed, in moments when something upset you in the behavior of the baby, you are overwhelmed with negativity and throw it out on the child. The child will then project this negative on you. He may become quiet, and then grow into a weak-willed teenager and then into an adult. Learn to speak calmly. Be patient, hold back, be sure to deal with why you are annoyed with your child. What upset you so much? His poor performance, disobedience, refusal to eat? All this can be corrected by starting to engage with the child, talking more. Severity is needed, but it must be combined with affection and attention.
Praise the child
Modern parents choose a slightly wrong parenting tactics. They demand, show severity, but they never praise their child for good deeds. But you need to praise much more often than scold. When the situation is tense, and you are about to break out because of the child's misconduct, try to remember what you can praise him for, and do it. The child will be surprised and will try to please you again so that you will praise him.
Careful with the requirements
Do not expect too much from your child; too high demands will not lead him to success. Just find what he does best. Maybe he draws or sings well? This is exactly what needs to be developed! Just don't think that your baby will definitely become a popular singer or famous artist. Just let him do what he likes.
Be an example to follow
With whom should children take an example? Of course, only from their parents. If you do not punish the child, but show by your example how you can overcome difficulties, then he will certainly grow up purposeful. You need to be an example, authority, strict but fair parent, then the child will grow up open, inquisitive and self-confident.
Become a friend to your child
Many people believe that one cannot be friends with a child, otherwise he will be arrogant, will not respect the parent and listen to his opinion. Other parents think that, on the contrary, they need to be friends with the baby, and simply stop being strict and engaging in education. You need to "catch" the middle. The child should know that he can always turn to you for help and advice, and that you will not judge him, but will begin to understand the situation. By the way, if you are in such a close relationship with the child, you will not need to scream.
Spend time with your child
It is clear that there is no time, because no one canceled household chores and work. But you have to set aside at least 15 minutes a day! Be sure to ask how your child is doing in kindergarten and at school, drink tea together, talk on some topics, watch cartoons together, read books. If the child does not have enough attention at home, he will look for it elsewhere. And more often than not, this leads to communication with unpleasant companies.
Love yourself
Until you understand yourself, you will not be able to build a good relationship with your child. You must be a harmonious person, calm, balanced, then you will not want to scream. Solve your problems instead of lashing out at the baby about your troubles.
Take care of your upbringing first, sort out what is happening in your life, then you will not have the desire to yell at the child!
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