When communicating with a person, people should not pay close attention to the lack of confidence in the voice and intonation of pronunciation. And it is better to listen to the words themselves, and the meaning, because he can directly say that the opponent is capable of failing. If your interlocutor utters the following phrases, then you should not have anything to do with him. He not only programs himself to fail, but he can also let others down. It is difficult to rely on him, because he may not fulfill what he promised.
Of course, much in a person can betray his true behavior. For example, some gestures, uncomfortable silence, strange laughter. Still, you should pay attention to the following phrases, they are important because they program a person to fail.
Failure Programming Phrases
"I will do everything I can ..."
If a person answers your request in this way or during the work process says such a phrase, then it is clearly time for you to think about a backup plan of action. This person will definitely not do his best. In fact, this phrase already says that a person will not be able to cope, and he has long understood this. Most likely, no matter how the situation turns in the future, any business will end in failure.
"Let's discuss this later."
And such a phrase by itself implies a generally opposite meaning. If a person says it, then, most likely, a little later, he is also not going to discuss with you a topic that has been postponed for later. Especially if the matter is very urgent, it hardly makes sense for you to wait for the conversation to take place.
"I have a few ideas regarding your request."
Such a phrase is a kind of trick that the interlocutor needs. To pass the time. So, be careful! Moreover, what kind of “several ideas” can there be when something urgently needs to be solved? If your interlocutor had really great ideas, he would just take and do, and not think for a long time.
"I will try to"
A very stupid phrase. Either you need to do it or not, not try. As in childhood, perhaps: "I try, it works - I did it"? But we are adults! In general, experts say that such a phrase is like a code word, which means: "I will not succeed."
"Actually…"
Well, it would seem a harmless phrase, but you need to look at the situation in which it is uttered. It can be a harbinger of so many problems. On the part of the interlocutor, this is a kind of self-justification, and the assurance of the person that everything will be fine. But this phrase also speaks of the lack of confidence of the interlocutor, and a firm attitude to another failure!
"I give you my word"
People who are confident in themselves and their strengths definitely do not say such a phrase. They are confident in their abilities, and they know that they will not let you down, why they need extra words, they take it and do it! From the fact that a person says: “I give you my word,” absolutely nothing will change! If a person is trusted, then, of course, they will believe in his strength and in the success of the business. And if not, then the point is to say it.
In conclusion. We realized that we need to be more careful with people who pronounce these phrases, but what about ourselves? After all, there are habits, words-parasites that are difficult to eradicate, and sometimes we do not deliberately blurt out what may confuse the interlocutor. "I will try to fix everything", "in fact, everything is simple there", "I will try to do everything in my power." We are sometimes driven by lack of confidence in ourselves and our strengths, which inevitably leads us to failures.
Be careful with what you say!
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