We all sometimes said phrases that the interlocutor understood somehow wrong. Sometimes seemingly harmless words can seriously injure a person and even lead to conflict. It's just that we can sometimes incorrectly or not fully understand the meaning of the story. To really understand a conversation, you need to understand the feelings of others, given their experiences in life.
Therefore, I recommend not to pronounce the following phrases so as not to offend the interlocutor
"You are kind of tired"
No one will enjoy spending time with a tired, dull person. He looks so haggard, grumpy, displeased. And to say a phrase like “you’re kind of tired” is more than correct. Wouldn't it be better to ask a person what happened to him and if everything is all right with him? You do not know the reason for his such condition and appearance!
"Wow, you've lost a lot of weight!"
Perhaps a person wants to compliment with such a phrase, but some kind of negativity emanates from her. Saying it, you seem to emphasize that in the past the person was fatter. It would be much better to say, "You look great!" A wonderful compliment, without negativity and memories of the past figure of the interlocutor.
"He is not worthy of you"
Probably, such a phrase also serves as a kind of consolation for the interlocutor, but it also implies that he made the wrong choice earlier, made a mistake. The phrase sounds much more appropriate: "He himself does not know what he has lost!" Such words cheer up, inspire confidence, express support.
"You never ..." / "Here you are always ..."
You shouldn't force people into a certain framework. Such phrases imply that the interlocutor needs to defend himself from you, and he will not delve into the meaning of the words you said. Better to tell the person directly what he did wrong, based on specific facts.
"You look good for your age."
In general, some kind of very stupid phrase indicating the age of a person. It is inappropriate to say this, especially to people of age, because they always strive to look much younger, although they say that this is not so. This is tantamount to telling, for example, a weightlifter that he is quite smart for an athlete. Is that funny? And people are unpleasant! Want to compliment? Say that the person looks great, and you don't need to indicate age.
"As I already said ..."
The person may have already forgotten what you said to him and when. And with such a phrase you offend him, because you do not consider it necessary to repeat what you have already said once.
"Good luck"
This is a very rude phrase, although at first glance it seems completely ordinary and even encouraging. I agree that there is nothing wrong with wishing someone good luck, but it is better to rephrase the word. For example, say, “I’m sure you’ll succeed,” or “You have everything to accomplish.”
"As you want" / "It's up to you"
Of course, you may not care, but the person who wants to know your opinion does not. Therefore, do not dismiss the interlocutor with such phrases if you do not want to offend him. Maybe you are not strong on the topic he is asking about, then it is better to say this: “I, of course, am not a pro in this matter, but you can think about what to do. For example...". By expressing your opinion, you show that you respect the person.
"I, at least, never ..."
An aggressive way to switch from one topic to another. You poke the interlocutor into his mistake, pointing out that you acted much wiser in a similar situation. Well, something unpleasant happened to a person, say "I'm sorry", don't be clever, because it doesn't make you smart! Or a similar phrase may arise in conflict situations, in which case it is better to admit your own guilt, instead of proving that you are much better than the interlocutor.
Seemingly ordinary words, but how they can hurt a person, and they can add a very unpleasant impression about you. Well, what can I say, watch your language, try to follow these tips, and you will be surprised at your efforts!
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