According to psychologists, parents themselves raise their children in such a way that they cannot become leaders as adults. Therefore, I want to talk about the mistakes that many make.
So, the mistakes adults make in parenting that prevent their children from becoming leaders
They don't let you risk it
There are some parents who are shaking for their children at every step. And it starts from the very first steps. We are afraid that the baby will fall, that he will touch the dirty "kitty", that he will hit the swing, etc. But there is a limit to everything. Nobody takes away your right to take care of your child's safety, but overprotection is even worse. Understand that falling, hitting, crying for first love and so on is what every child needs to reach emotional maturity, become stronger, and be a leader. But children who are constantly taken care of because of any little thing acquire low self-esteem or become arrogant.
They don't see the difference between a person's mind and maturity.
Smart does not mean wise. And parents sometimes confuse these two things, believing that if their child is smart, it means that he is mature and ready for adult life. Not ready, everything has its time. Look at the talented stars - singers, actors. From time to time they can be seen involved in major scandals. Yes, smart and talented, but there is no smell of maturity here.
They climb everywhere with their help
The child has a lot of math problems - mommy urgently solves everything for him, the kid needs to remove the toys - dad is already climbing on all fours and puts everything that the offspring scattered in its place. And this continues from year to year, and then, excuse me, "healthy foreheads" grow, which even in adulthood are unable to cope with their problems.
They admire children a lot and excessively.
Psychologists say that children, of course, need to point out their mistakes, but we must not forget and say thanks for the help in cleaning, washed dishes and other useful actions of the child. But you can't go too far in this. Do not think that if you, for example, constantly tell your child that he is the most beautiful and smartest, then you will develop self-esteem in him. You can transform your toddler into a very arrogant adult. And also parents who constantly praise their children, turn a blind eye to their bad behavior, and children turn into liars, learn to exaggerate and lie, just to avoid the harsh reality.
They don't tell their kids about their mistakes.
I agree that children rarely learn from the mistakes of adults, but they are still worth talking about. The harm of smoking and drinking alcohol, the danger of unprotected sex, betrayal of friends. Just don't turn your stories into prohibitions and moralizing, because children will do exactly the opposite. Be secretive, talk about your life, about mistakes and unpleasant actions, and be sure to indicate what experience you have learned from all this.
They don't set an example for their children.
Children learn everything from us, from adults. Therefore, you need to simulate the behavior that you require from your baby. Teach him to be responsible for his actions, do not lie, behave dishonestly, do not keep his word. The child needs to become a friend, a sympathetic companion. He will certainly remember all this, and will begin to act in the same way.
They are afraid to say no
Parents often feel guilty when they have to forbid something to their children. As a result, permissiveness begins, and it is already quite difficult to cope with the consequences of such spoiledness.
Admit it, moms and dads, do you make these mistakes in raising your children?
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