You will not be saved by another person after breaking up with your ex, marriage will not give you happiness if you enter into it with doubts, do not be guided by the rules established by others, each of us has our own life.
Here are some very important truths about relationships that everyone is silent about!
- Marriage will not save you from loneliness, emptiness, and problems. Do not rush "there" because everyone has it and you need it. Another person will never be able to compensate you for your own defect, on the contrary, he can expose it, strengthen it, and you will have to "disentangle" everything yourself.
- It is much more correct to remain alone, instead of grabbing the option that is at hand. You should not enter into a relationship out of fear that if not these, then there will definitely not be others. You will definitely not find happiness from this.
- Children are not always happy. In addition to joyful moments with them, you will receive a lack of personal time, lack of sleep, lack of time, tears from hopelessness in moments of childhood illnesses, etc. If you understand all this, then this is good. But, if you think that with the birth of a child your life will become bright and fragrant with roses, then you should think about whether you should even think about having children.
- In a relationship, both should be responsible, do something for their development, then both will be more comfortable and better. If you are not ready for this, then you are not ready to build a healthy relationship either.
- Any family has its own pitfalls that simply no one brings to the surface. There are no perfect families!
- You should not enter into a relationship with a person if you have not yet learned how to talk and solve problems that arise, finding a compromise. You just haven't grown up to it yet. And passion and all "love" will quickly end.
- Learn to be honest with each other about your sexual desires. Women often imitate orgasm, and men mistake penis spasm for closeness. As a result, both partners walk around dissatisfied and angry.
- If there is nothing in common between you and your partner, then it is unlikely that this will appear over time. Therefore, after years, you should not start whining that everything is wrong in your union. You saw from the very beginning with whom you connect your destiny.
- Learn to admit your mistakes, if you realized that the wrong person is with you, tell him about it and leave. There is no need to drag out for many years, let the person go, he will still find happiness.
- People don't change, they can open up more over time, or take off their masks. You cannot change anyone with your love. So don't even try. If you are of great value to a person, then changing will only be his decision, not yours. No need to pretend to be a good fairy, you will not succeed.
- Problems will not go away by themselves, they must be solved here and now. There is no need to shift the responsibility for solving them to a partner, there is no need to postpone them until tomorrow, learn, when faced with problems, not to hide in the bushes.
- You don't have to live by someone else's advice. Nobody knows how and what is happening in your life, from the outside it does not know better! There are no ideal families who know how to solve every problem in every relationship. Think with your head!
- Women need love and a sense of security, men need food, support and the opportunity to share problems and thoughts with someone. It's that simple. Both partners need sincerity and a lack of desire to break each other.
- You need to take a responsible approach to marriage, creating a family and having children, and go for it only when you know exactly why you need all this. And listening to other people's advice and living by the generally established rules is nonsense. It doesn't work here.
I hope my article was helpful to you!
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