Have you ever thought at least once about the fact that children do not need to see and hear everything that is happening around? If so, then we can say - you are an adequate parent. But there are those who allow themselves to use obscene expressions, abuse, condemnation of people and themselves. Dear parents, there are things your child shouldn't hear, see or know!
These things are not meant for children.
Alien secrets
Let's say someone's mother told you something about her baby, you don't need to share this information with your baby. It's a secret, right? So there is no need to dwell on this. Also, do not talk about your girlfriends, relatives with a child, who did something bad there. The child does not need to know this at all!
Quarreling
Never quarrel in front of your child. It is impossible for dad to scold mom, and mom to dad with the baby. With such behavior, you will not only lose his respect, but also negatively set your father / mother, and the child will decide that all conflicts can only be resolved by insults and scandals.
School negative
No matter how bad your child's teacher is, in your opinion, you do not need to express your opinion on this subject in front of the child. If you do not like the place where your child is studying, then what is the problem? Move it to another location! Understand that if you speak negatively about the school and the teachers, then the child will take all this from you.
Discussion of the child in his absence
Agree, it's unpleasant for you when someone discusses you behind your back. Moreover, it is doubly unpleasant if your loved ones are talking about you. So why do you allow yourself to talk about your dear baby in his absence. This is a real betrayal, you will undermine your respect and the child's faith in justice and honesty.
Complaints about your appearance
There are moms who love to go to the mirror and moan about their appearance. You cannot do this, because the words "I am fat", "I am pimple", etc. the child will definitely not ignore it. Sometimes mothers flirt in this way so that the fathers try to convince them in their words, but the child does not understand this. And how can a mother be an authority if, for example, she is a “fat cow”?
Bad habits
Try to prevent your child from seeing how you enjoy eating fast food, smoking or drinking alcohol if you are still unable to deny yourself these addictions. You are setting a very bad example for the baby. Better cook porridge, wash vegetables, and gobble up, showing your child how tasty and healthy it is!
Money problems
It is you, adults, who plow from morning to night, you constantly lack money, and the child should not be aware of this, because he is not yet familiar enough with this area of life. He may be very alarmed by the information that you are tight with money.
Horror
The child's psyche is vulnerable and tender, so he will not be able to listen to a terrible story about murderers and maniacs without consequences. And horror movies are not for children either! Of course, the child needs to be explained that it is better for him not to approach strangers, that he needs to be on the street attentive, crossing the road, etc., but with horror movies you can make the baby afraid every rustle.
I would be grateful if you could add to this list. Let's share with each other the secrets of upbringing, because we all want to be ideal for our children and raise them to be kind, sympathetic, honest and balanced people!
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