When you break up with your partner, he becomes an ex. You feel resentment, well, or broke up on a good note, but still, experts recommend not to communicate with your former men, because this way a woman wastes all her energy. And this leads to psychological exhaustion.
It is quite difficult to take and stop communicating with a person with whom you have been together for a long time. They shared their joys and sorrows with each other, quarreled and made peace, spent weekdays and holidays together. But you need to learn to live without it, you need to be able to go further! This is a kind of test, many women go through it, it is unpleasant, difficult, painful, but you need to endure, you need to overcome it!
And try to do everything possible on your own not to see your ex-man anywhere else, do not call, do not reply to messages. You are not going to start all over again with him, knowing that you will have to go through a painful path again?
This is why you shouldn't start hanging out with your ex again.
You waste energy on nothing
As much as it pains you to realize it, your relationship with your ex is dead. Yes, they are dead! If you continue to communicate with your ex-boyfriend, then you are wasting energy on a dead relationship. You have already been in touch with him once, and this has not led to anything good. You either have to move on or sit down and lick your wounds! But you don't have to look back, because this is a useless waste of energy! It won't get better, yes, you may be drawn to it, but you must endure, because you cannot change and fix anything!
It takes time for you to heal your wounds
But you can't do that if you see your ex all the time. There is no medicine that would instantly heal heart and mental wounds. It will all pass over time, you need it to heal. Yes, everything is not so difficult! It may only take you time to heal completely. If you start seeing your ex again, then you will begin to waste your time not on healing wounds, but on empty ones. After all, it was this relationship that hurt you.
It may take a month, two, or maybe a year for you to calm down! But you need to endure this time for the wounds to heal. After breaking up with your ex, you felt overwhelmed and devastated. Therefore, you now need to focus on yourself, connect all your "parts" together, and not open your wounded heart to receive new pain.
You live in fantasy, forgetting about reality
Perhaps you think that you are not interested in real life right now, that you are in so much pain that you are ready to forget yourself with your ex in your fantasies. I beg you, do not be stupid! You must survive, survive this! Do not remember those pleasant moments together and that there were many good things in your relationship. Instead, don't forget about the pain you received. You are not immune from another blow, because no one knows what will happen next! Your fantasies keep you from living in the real world!
You don't move on
You need to live on after parting, and not get stuck in one place, day after day receiving another blow. It's okay if you're sad or crying, but it's okay to continue hanging out with your ex.
You will still meet your love and become a happy wife. To do this, you need to stop communicating with your ex. Now it seems to you that you are so unhappy that no one needs you, that it is your ex who is the meaning of your whole life... It will all pass! But communicating with your ex, you are wasting your time, your energy, living in your fantasies, and getting stuck in one place. Think about it!
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