Are you familiar with the condition that occurs when you are around a toxic person? It seems to suck all the strength out of you, you feel oppressed, confused, everything falls out of your hands, there is no mood, bad thoughts arise. However, we sometimes often ignore even the smallest calls, because our old friends or relatives are manipulators or psychopaths. They can pretend to be poor sheep to be with you. And the bottom line is that they brazenly use you for their own purposes, and only try to seem good to you!
Of course, immediately recognizing a toxic person is difficult. I have already raised this topic many times in my articles. But today I suggest you learn to understand why you can, like a magnet, attract such negative people into your life. As strange as it may sound, your positive qualities are to blame.
Why do you attract toxic people to you?
You are a very good listener
Agree, it is very pleasant to communicate with a person who not only hears you, but actually listens. In our time, this is very difficult to find. What do negative people do? They are looking for such, i.e. they need "free ears" to flush out the feces that accumulate in their heads. If you are a good listener, you attract a wide variety of people, including toxic people in this line. They also love to talk a lot and for a long time about themselves, especially their experiences, which then turn into your experiences.
Complaints, gossip, discussions - you all listen to this, and negativity accumulates in your soul, which then destroys you from the inside! Therefore, it is sometimes necessary to "slip away" in time, justifying your departure with important matters, instead of listening to all sorts of nonsense.
You do not spare your time
It's great when you always have time for family and friends. But toxic people like to use it too. They try to be in the center of your life so that you always think about them, find time for them, for example, between work and family. They become part of your existence! Therefore, it is so important to set personal boundaries by clearly limiting the relationship you have.
You are an open and honest person
You want to achieve success in life, you are planning an interesting trip, you have some more changes coming. If you do not hide this, then, of course, you will attract "toxomanes" into your life. These negative personalities certainly do not like it when someone is doing very well, and they will not miss their opportunity to ruin everything, even if it’s just your mood. Criticism, condemnation, introduction of doubts and more awaits you. Therefore, always be silent about your plans, even with the closest people.
You are a relaxed and calm person
These are the people that attract toxic people. Because they have a calm person, probably associated with a weak, weak-willed. Or maybe this is their opposite, to which they strive, hence the unknown power of magnetism. And a relaxed person is much easier to manipulate, he is like plasticine, which can be used for your own purposes. Be on the lookout!
You are optimistic about things.
You are exactly the person whose glass is always half full, not empty. On the one hand, this infuriates toxic people very much, on the other hand, they want to be with you in order to draw out positive energy from you. Vampires, not otherwise! And again, we can say that it is better not to show your sincere emotions to everyone around, you should not cheer up those who do not need it, try not to get into other people's problems, and even more so to solve them!
Try to limit your communication with manipulators and psychopaths, they bring complete disappointment, unhappiness and devastation to your life!
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