Unfortunately, from generation to generation, moms and dads have been raising their children completely wrong. They teach us anything but how to be good parents. And so, we educate our children, not understanding anything, and then in the end we disentangle what we ourselves have created.
I found very interesting information from psychologists that allows me to reveal typical mistakes in raising children. And also next to each mistake, I will indicate the consequences to which they lead to the child.
- You disregard the wishes of your children. You are simply indifferent to it. Probably, it seems to you that while a child is small, he may want some kind of nonsense, and that everything he says is a continuous childhood. But, if you do not take into account the desires of your daughter or son, then they will grow up infantile and passive.
- You are very often annoyed by your own child. He asks a lot, makes noise, is capricious, rude, crying, etc. What are you doing? Go for it! As a result, your child will grow up to be a distrustful and secretive person.
- You prefer to do everything for your child, believing that he is too young, and that he will still have time to deal with adult affairs in his life. But the years go by, and absolutely nothing changes. Your child will grow into an indecisive and timid person, and can also become a real lazy person, who even chooses a life partner for him, who will do everything for him.
- You don't give your child a choice. In the end, he seems to have absolutely everything, but he still takes toys from other children.
- You constantly compare your child with strangers, indicating that they are better than him. For example, you praise your daughter's classmate, who is doing much better, or your son's friend who plays sports, not like yours. What's yours? Yours will grow up envious and angry, moreover, with low self-esteem. He will always think that no matter what he does, someone will be better than him, and this will turn him into embittered.
- If you are a very rude and aggressive person, then your child will grow up the same way.
- You spend little time with your children. You are at work all day, and in the evening, upon returning home, you only want one thing - to rest, and you do not want to deal with your child at all. This will lead to the fact that he grows up hot-tempered and irritable.
- You are very critical and strict with your child, and strongly condemn all his mistakes and mistakes. In this case, your baby will soon just start lying to you for any reason.
- You know better than your child, so you tell him what to do. And always and on any questions. If you don't stop doing this, then he will grow up to be a person who does not respect others.
- You do not miss the opportunity to scold your child in front of strangers, pointing out to him his shortcomings, thereby humiliating him. He will turn into a person who cannot stand up for himself.
Do not forget that many of the qualities and habits of an adult come straight from distant childhood. Our children are the result of our upbringing. Before you start blaming your child for bad manners and bad behavior, think about whether all this is the consequence of your shortcomings and mistakes!
How, then, to raise a child? No way! You don't need to educate anyone! The only thing to do is set an example for your child! If a mother yells at her children day and night, how can she demand that they be kind? Start with yourself if you want to grow a complete personality!
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