Being a parent is not easy. It is not enough just to record in the baby's birth certificate that you are his mother or father. Being a parent is a huge job, regardless of the character that your baby has, you can change a lot in him, teach him a lot, share your experience. Our children only pretend that they do not want to hear anything about our advice, and, it seems, always strive to do their own thing. In fact, everything here depends on us adults. You need to clearly convey to the children what you want from them, set an example, not just say nothing, but prove what was said in practice.
Here are tips to help your child grow up to be independent and self-reliant!
Don't let anyone break your rules. Nobody has the right to force you to do something against your will, nobody can tease you, hurt you or threaten you. If a situation occurs that is uncomfortable for you, then you need to gather courage and be able to defend yourself with words, and, possibly, actions. But it is also worth remembering that you do not have any right to violate the rights of others.
You have to be confident in what you think and what you do. (You should help your child to become self-confident, maintain positive self-esteem in him. Teach your child to adequately respond to their mistakes, praise him for his achievements. Then he will grow up to be a confident person).
Always believe in the best, even if the situation that happened seems to you just terrible. (It is important to teach your child not to dwell on the negative, and always believe only in the good. It is much easier for an optimist to perceive the blows of fate. It is these people who attract positive, as well as positive people).
You have the right to your own opinion. (The child should not be afraid to express his own opinion. And no one has the right to shut him up. So teach him this from a young age, create some conditions for his communication with different people, let the child speak his mind, support the conversation. It is the experience of communicating with different people that will help the child become more confident in himself.)
It is important to be able to rebuff a person not with fists. Assault will not help you resolve the situation, it is not always the best solution to the problem. Learn to defend your position with words, they really help a lot. In addition, a person who is confident in himself, and always knows what to answer to any irritation, is much more respected by people than the one who immediately waves his fists.
You don't need to support people who tease someone or you. (Every person has a name, and this is the most real value. It is worth conveying to the child that all these teasers, nicknames, and chases should be ignored.)
Don't be afraid to say no. (This advice is sometimes useful for some adults as well. Teach your child from childhood to give up something if the situation is uncomfortable. He has the right to choose. His firm "no" will inspire respect from others and make his life easier.)
Don't be afraid to ask for help. (Your child needs to be confident in you. He should know that if he doesn't succeed in something, he can always turn to you for help, and you will really help him.)
Sport is fashionable and this is your health! With the help of sports, you can develop endurance, patience, and also raise your own self-esteem.
Do you have anything to add to this list?
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