We choose... we are chosen. As in the song, sometimes we choose the wrong people, but we realize it too late. When people truly love each other, they begin to change for the better, they feel happy, and self-confidence is added. But, when the next person is completely wrong, there is a transformation in the other direction. We, of course, do not choose who we fall in love with and who we don't. But one thing we can do for sure, choose with whom to build relationships. Sometimes we get clues that tell us that we are building a relationship with the completely wrong person. Don't ignore these calls, don't waste your life.
Here are signs that you are building a relationship with the wrong person ...
You feel that the person does not understand you
It seems to you that he never listens to you or hears you. You seem to be from different planets, and you just can't understand each other, experience similar feelings. You try to explain something to him, but nothing comes of it. This leaves you emotionally drained, which is like knocking on a closed door. Or maybe the person is just not trying to hear you? Be that as it may, over time you will simply lose all desire to somehow establish contact with a person. Especially when it comes to some problematic issues. If you feel that only you are trying, then you are definitely next to the wrong person!
Bad habits started to appear.
It can start small, for example, with nutrition, sports, vocabulary. If before you were a real lady, you ate only healthy foods and went to the gym, and now you suddenly started yourself up in this regard, then you are definitely with the wrong person next to you. True mutual feelings only make us better. Let's say your man is far from sports, and you, in order not to embarrass him with your reliefs and impeccable appearance, decided to become like him. And what are these sacrifices for? After all, it should have been the other way around, but he did not want to. I'm not talking about addictions, which can grow into other bad habits.
You are unable to resolve your conflicts.
You don't know how to do this at all. How is your relationship? A scandal that does not lead to any decision, then ignore, and then, most likely, an explosion of emotions, right? There are two options. Either it's time for you to grow up, or the person next to you is completely wrong.
You don't want to introduce him to your loved ones
Something is stopping you. Wait, are you ashamed of him? You already subconsciously know that he is not “the hero of your novel,” therefore you delay his acquaintance with friends and family.
It's just comfortable for you to be in a relationship with him.
Well, everyone just has a boyfriend and you should have. Or it is easier for you to rent an apartment together, you are tired of being alone, or maybe you already have a common child. But relationships should make you happy!
You make compromises and he doesn't
If only you make compromises in a relationship, realizing that they are needed to build strong relationships, then you definitely will not go far. You constantly adjust to him, and he lives the way he wants it. It is convenient for him, but you are not tired of living like that?
You are not proud of him
He's not the one you want to tell your loved ones about, you don't want to talk about him at all. And in general you even feel ashamed when someone starts talking about him. You have definitely connected your destiny with the wrong person.
Don't waste your time with this person. You must be happy, and live, first of all, for yourself, and not for him to be comfortable.
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