It is very difficult at times to identify a toxic person who, moreover, smiles in the eyes, and he himself pimples with his poison. The most important thing to learn is never take the words of such "entities" seriously. Better yet, avoid these by any means.
I’ll tell you about the phrases toxic people say to humiliate you and hurt your self-esteem!
"You are dramatizing"
This is how the toxic person will try to make you believe that you yourself are to blame for everything that happened. You instantly become the "king of drama", but this is not a blow to your self-esteem, but a carefully hidden manipulation. Most likely, a toxic person deliberately committed a bad deed, inflicted pain, so that later everything could be turned around like this. And he does not regret a bit about what he did. But for you, such a phrase can strike a strong blow if you are in an unbalanced state.
"You yourself are to blame for everything"
Either you did something, or the toxic person himself did something, but you will definitely be to blame. You are to blame for his rudeness, betrayal, rudeness, treason. And after all, under the influence of a toxic person, you will begin to really think that you are to blame for something! Again, this is a good manipulation. For example, here's a situation. A man has cheated on a woman, she will find out about everything. The man did not plan to part with her, and he is trying to somehow settle the situation. But, instead of apologizing, he blames the woman for everything: “You were inattentive to me, you spend little time with me, you stopped loving me” and blah blah blah. Your answer should be from the following category: "You are a goat, and goodbye!"
"You are not sure of yourself"
A toxic person is fueled by people's anxiety and fears. Firstly, such a phrase does not carry any respect, and secondly, it sounds so ironic. And the truth is that a toxic person himself is not confident in himself and in his abilities! And he projects his uncertainty onto you, because they have no more ways to cope with it! Another must do something bad, so that it is not so awful for himself, that's all politics!
"You yourself don't know what you are saying"
You won't like it if someone doubts what you are saying? A toxic person is trying to belittle your intellectual abilities with such a phrase, putting himself above you. It's a shame. In fact, in this way a toxic person is trying to find a way out of some problem situation. To achieve what he wants, he is ready for such shameless acts and degrading words.
"I don't want to communicate with a person who ..."
And here it is again some kind of accusation, humiliation, and even an ultimatum. For example, your partner tells you this. Yes, if he truly loves you, he will never tell you that! Again, with such a phrase, a toxic person projects his flaws on you, and you simply do not have to endure this. Let him cope with his insecurity, shortcomings and complexes, and you are a normal person!
"You (insult)"
When a toxic person fails to put the interlocutor in place with passive aggression, he switches to insults. And here any words can be used, but the most humiliating and disgusting ones. This is all because of despair, the true nature creeps out. The most popular insults from a toxic person are: "You are a failure", "You are a fool", "You are nobody." Remember, perhaps, once upon a time you had to suddenly hear from a person “you are a loser,” and it remains in your head to this day. This phrase suddenly begins to burn through your brain when another fall happens in your life. Really? Now you know that you are no loser! But a toxic person is such, because with such a phrase he simply threw out everything that had accumulated in him. And he simply projects again his unluckiness on others!
You don't have to put up with toxic people. You have a two-step solution: ignore or terminate communication!
