Anything in life happens, and the couple, who seemed to everyone yesterday to be happy and in love, suddenly announces their separation today. You came to this with your partner, thought it over and decided to scatter in all directions. But, after rethinking everything, you suddenly realized that you feel bad without him... Or the parting happened without your desires, but only on his initiative, and you suddenly realized that you do not agree with such a circumstance cases. First, suffering, losing oneself for a while, a fake smile to friends, emptiness without calls and SMS from him, and then an ardent desire to return everything as it was.
How to return a loved one if it is very scary to receive a refusal? Moreover, he does not know about it yet. We'll have to take risks, because it is not known how he will react. You will have to decide on a very important step, stifle your pride, and be prepared for the fact that no one ruled out a mistake!
If you are firmly convinced that you should try to get it back, then go ahead! And most importantly, avoid the following mistakes!
No need to try to make a man jealous
Now you are not the heroine of a tearful film, and it is unlikely that your ex, seeing you with another, will suddenly realize that he wants to be with you. This is real life, and everything is completely different here. Making a person jealous is a real manipulation. Yes, perhaps he still loves you, and did not let go of his heart, besides, men are great owners. He may react to your attempts, but from this he will not love you even more. He may regard your act as indifference to him on your part, he will lose all trust in you, he suddenly realizes that he did the right thing by breaking off relations with you. Do not be stupid, do not aggravate your situation.
No need to lie
Perhaps the coldness in your relationship originated a long time ago. Something here is his fault, something is yours. In that case, if you decide to have a conversation, you need to be honest from start to finish! Truth is a show of respect! This is the main thing that people need even after breaking up. Discussion of everything that happened should be without flattery and lies. Your ex should feel that you are open to him and sincere!
Don't blame
Sorting out a relationship is always difficult. Even when the couple has not broken up, you need to make it a rule to never blame your soulmate. And when the breakup happened, even more so. During the conversation, try to speak for yourself, you do not need to pour out a "bucket of slops" on a man with accusations and reproaches. Control yourself, you do not want to humiliate him and punish him, but measure himself with him, return him!
Don't chase him
The biggest mistake women make. After breaking up, they start bombarding their ex with calls and tearful text messages. You need to give your ex-partner personal space, let everything develop gradually and slowly. Even if you want to discuss a very important topic with him, wait until your ex finds the right time to do so. Pressure on him from your side will not help you at all, but will only aggravate the situation!
Don't give up too quickly
It is a mistake to believe that if you write a message to your ex asking them to return everything back or with a declaration of love, then everything will certainly return, as it was. This will not happen. You will have to put in a lot more effort. But, as I said above, there is no need to overwhelm a man with your writing, calls, and appear wherever he is. Do not give up, wait, endure, do not rush into new relationships. Many women give up too quickly right before the moment when their exes, after rethinking everything, suddenly decide to return. If you are firmly convinced that your relationship is worth a second chance, then you will have to make an effort.
You might want to share some of the mistakes you made when you wanted to get your ex back? I look forward to interesting stories in the comments! Let's help other women!
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