A friend is known in trouble and in joy, a friend is the person you can rely on, a friend is the one who will always support... But what to do if after communicating with with this very friend, your head starts to hurt, troubles overtake one after another, and you begin to live his life, completely forgetting about your own needs?
Today we are talking about girlfriends, although men are like that. I have few friends. Half of the years were weeded out, and only the most devoted and reliable remained nearby. So today I want to tell you about my experience, and about reality in general, because I am sure that I was not the only one who was so “lucky” in my life.
These friends simply "eat" your energy and "steal" your well-being. By the way, they are not always able to do it on purpose, sometimes simply because they cannot do otherwise. But, in any case, you should protect yourself from other people's negativity and bad influence!
So, 4 types of girlfriends to avoid
The first type is a whiner
Well, you will say that friends are for this purpose, so that you can cry in your vest. But, what if any meeting turns into this very "cry"? Now she has problems with her husband, then there are troubles at work, then she had a fight with her mother, and you won't hear anything good at all. And you seem to feel sorry for her, you offer help, she happily agrees, and then a new meeting, and again whining. Then you notice that next to such a lady you begin to experience both irritation and guilt for this very irritation. The friend herself is not trying to change anything in her life, and you turn into a trash can!
The second type is the complainant
It seems that the complainant and the whiner are the same thing. But with the first copy, everything is a little different. Here the whiner begins to immediately pour out his troubles on you, and the complainer somehow accidentally begins to hurt some facts from her life, causing you to feel pity. And, as soon as you are imbued with her problem, she begins to hint to you, to do her some kind of service. And he does not ask directly, but turns the matter so that you yourself offer your help.
I had such a... Whining that there was no money, although she herself did not get a job, she said that she had not yet found her calling. And she, meanwhile, is already 35, divorced, no children, no work, moved to live with her parents. I felt so sorry for her, although I won't say that she is all in gold. I offered her a small part-time job, cleaning the rented apartment when the tenants move out. She agreed, I was so glad that I would help her.
But when the next day I called her and said that I needed to go to the rented one, she began to make excuses: "Come on later, my head is not washed right now." I called two hours later, and she had an urgent meeting with someone. I realized that I would not help her in any way until she herself wants to help herself. In general, my assistant did not work out, well, friendship did not work out either... You know, it’s unpleasant to feel stupid, you kind of help, when they didn't ask you, you want it best, and then you also lapel-turn.
The third type is a brawler
It is also extremely difficult to communicate with such people. These ladies always have someone to quarrel with, they always quarrel with someone. They are always cheated, and so, they cannot be silent, and they start to scandal. I also had such a friend. At first I didn’t pay attention to her aggressive outbursts, but then I felt ashamed. In a cafe, she found fault with the waiter, then with the man sitting at the next table, in the store she was unhappy with the cashier. And all her discontent was necessarily expressed in shouts. And you know that in this way people attract attention to themselves, as well as steal other people's powers!
The fourth type is the critic
It is very difficult to find a common language with such a friend, because she criticizes everyone around you, including you. Especially if you asked her opinion. Do you know what is in reality? She absolutely does not care about those around her and their feelings. She tries to look better at the expense of others, at the expense of their humiliation. Such a person quickly undermines your self-confidence, as well as your health.
Tell us, do you have such friends now? Or, perhaps you have been in contact with these types of girlfriends before and have managed to distance yourself from them.
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