Most likely, you have heard such an expression as RSP. This is what many men call divorced women with children - “divorced woman with a trailer”. I agree that it is a rather unpleasant "name-calling", and, most likely, it is used by men who have failed in life, who once got into not very good relationships, and now believe that all women on the planet want them take advantage. And it is RSP that poses an extreme danger.
So, we figured out what RSPs call women who raise their own children alone, who are conceived in a broken marriage or out of wedlock. All over the Internet, articles are popping up about why you shouldn't marry "such". Men call RSP stupid women, mercantile, leading a socially unacceptable lifestyle, selfish, etc. In general, a real war of the sexes!
All the same men think that the RSP hate men, consider them goats, they have a terrible character, and they only need money. They want to find a man for themselves, hook him up in order to pull money out of him for their support, and the provision of their offspring. If they could not preserve family happiness once, or even more times, it means that a normal man will not be able to live with them until old age in love and harmony. And in general, perhaps they walked up the child, with just anyone, and now they need not a man next to them, but an ATM that will work non-stop.
Moreover, the demo version of the RSP is pretty sweet, affectionate, excellent cooking, chic mistress - just ideal in all respects. But over time, when a man marries or just falls in love with her, she will show her wolfish grin and a strong grip. And demands for money, scandals and reproaches will begin.
Why do men so dislike divorced women with children?
As I said, not all men are so aggressive towards divorced women. It's just that there are individuals who have not managed to build harmonious relationships, who were burned in love, who actually fell for mercantile ladies. It was they who sowed a lot of gossip around women who were unlucky in life. And now I want to talk about those sins that offended men attribute to divorced women with children.
4 sins of the CPA of a divorced single mother
According to statistics, in almost every third Russian family, a woman is raising a child without a husband. There are about 5 million women divorced with children in our country!
The humiliating and insulting attitude towards these women began about 10 years ago. And on the Internet, their real persecution began to occur. If we nevertheless omit the most offensive insults, then we can single out 4 “sins” that these women have committed / are committing, according to men.
- destroyed / failed to create a family;
- the son grows up without a male example;
- the child develops the wrong model of family relations;
- a woman only needs money.
Let's figure it out
Destroyed / failed to create a family
Unfortunately, statistics are not on the side of women. A professor at Stanford University conducted research on the basis of which he came to the conclusion that 69% of women are initiators of divorce, and only 31% are left for men. But here I would like to add an explanation to such figures. Women are more likely to divorce because marriage is convenient for men. It's funny, but at first they do not rush to the registry office, and then they get involved in their new life, and enjoy. Namely, they enjoy the fact that women manage the household, work and take care of children. That is, they work in 3 shifts. Psychologists say that men in this case do not file for divorce only because they are very afraid to radically change something in their lives. They would rather “walk to the left”, but they will stay in their comfort zone. I do not argue that each case of divorce is individual, but if you look from this point of view, it is difficult to call each divorce a consequence of a woman's desire to "ruin" the family.
The son grows up without a male example
Many people believe that even though some, even a poor one, drinking, screaming, and chasing mom, but the father, but he is next to his son. But, if a woman divorced, then she deprived her son of a male example. And, what an example, if dad is walking, forever lying and leads an immoral lifestyle? What kind of example will he set for a child? Will he show that a man can behave rudely, drink, walk, lie, shout, be rude? I do not argue that a complete family is real happiness, but sometimes a male example, especially for a boy, is negative. It is quite possible for a child to become an example to follow - a dear grandfather, uncle, godfather, a coach in a circle or section, a teacher at school. This is much better than a drunken dad who is capable of disgusting things. By the way, girls are also better off not seeing such dads, otherwise they will have the wrong model of behavior in the family, and they will subconsciously choose a “similar individual” for their husbands.
The child develops the wrong model of family relationships
Now, this just follows from the first. Sometimes women do not divorce a man just because the child will have the wrong model of family relationships. There is an opinion that children who grew up in an incomplete family themselves then create such incomplete families - girls get divorced, guys leave their wife and child. However, if a child grows up in a family where there will be scandals and violence, it will harm his psyche.
Single mothers only need money
According to statistics, single mothers are almost the most working part of the population! Therefore, well, it will never work to accuse them of parasitism. And do not think that they all receive "fat" alimony. Here is a stone in the garden of men, does everyone pay alimony? And is 7-9 thousand rubles a sum that you can live on and not need?
And what is in practice?
In fact, as I believe, the only reason for the persecution of women in divorce from children is that the accusers themselves did not have a good life. After all, if a person is doing well, will he write offensive things on the Internet and say them out loud? Why would men who are happily in a relationship / married throw mud at single mothers? That's right, they don't need it.
And you, men who are unlucky in love, have a choice - to marry or not! And only you are responsible for your personal life, and shifting responsibility to others is a sign of bad taste!
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