Most people make friends naturally. However, sometimes it becomes too challenging. To help those who are experiencing difficulties in this regard, psychologists conducted a series of studies aimed at understanding of what attracts people to each other.
It turned out to evoke sympathy in others is quite easy, if you follow the psychological techniques described below:
1. Copy those with whom you want to make friends. This strategy is called "Reflection" and the act of copying (not too obvious, of course) other people's behavior: the other person's body language, his gestures, and facial expressions. So it's easy to reach the so-called "chameleon effect" when people are copying each other unconsciously, enhance mutual sympathy.
2. Spend more time with those who really like. Talking about "the effect of familiarity with the subject", which is well known in the practice of psychology. It turns out that people are much more sympathetic to those things that are familiar to them. Description of the phenomenon refers to 1950 That's when researchers at MIT have received, and then confirm the results published, examining the behavior of college students. Those subjects who lived together in a hostel is much more likely to become friends than those who lived separately.
Important! Generally, any opening in the field say that a large amount of time spent with certain people, makes these people sympathize with those who are close. Therefore, even if you do not live "in a dorm" with those who really like to try to see them regularly.
3. To compliment. People will associate with your personality adjectives you use to describe others.
People always associate the adjectives you use in speech, describing other people, with your own personality. this phenomenon is called in psychology "spontaneous trait transference." A number of studies found: This effect is observed even when people believe - they are not like they describe the source. The paradox, but you see the same as you describe other! Therefore, to use the word often "kind, sincere, intelligent." And pass for such.
4. Often dwell in a good mood. And then there is another psychological effect, which professionals call "emotional infection." This happens when people fall under the strong emotions and the mood of others. Then they begin to experience the same thing literally hovers around them. And who would not like it. they give joy and happiness ?!
5. Do not flatter excessively. Then psychological work "The Theory of profit-loss", according to which the positive comments have more impact if the voice of only occasionally. Speak to those with whom you want to make friends, compliments a little less, and it's guaranteed to work - you will communicate more frequently, become closer.
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