It would seem to say "no" - it's easy. In fact, everything is much more complicated. It happens, do not dare to refuse, even though it is clear that it is necessary. And then the man either does not deny and do wrong or gets into a stressful situation, making an effort to still refuse. Practicing psychologists believe: in a number of requests to deny a must. Even close friends.
What kind of request? Let's investigate.
Top 10 is as follows:
1. To lend
If the budget is laid out, and each asks to borrow the amount, which is not, to be denied, explaining the situation.
2. Offer joint business
If a friendly proposal initially looks unprofitable, but still there is doubt about the fact that a common cause can destroy a friendship, the answer clearly has to be negative. Just do not have to answer right away, we must take the time to prepare arguments "why not."
3. Invitation to a party
If you already have plans related to family or work, and friends call to walk, to resign, without fear of any offense. You, too, have the right to be offended by what your plans are "secondary."
4. Obsessive recourse
Some "friends", just get help in a different way did not even try to solve their problems. To be a "cash cow" is not part of your life plan, say a resounding "no."
5. The uninvited guests
There is a category of people who in adult life are behaving like children. They sure have the right to be visiting without an invitation, and even without notifying anyone.
6. Please pass something "with a convenient opportunity"
Of course, there is nothing complicated about to pass a small gift, if you still go to the city (in the wrong direction, etc.). But if in fact "package wrapped" is oversized or heavy loads, should be abandoned. It is already annoying.
7. It did not even ask - just druzhba- "parasite"
There are people who do not care plans, habits and desires of others. These "friends" can be declared with the entire family to you for the whole weekend, counting and eat, and drink, and relax. By the way, to prevent the visit, they also do not hurry. Here, of course, do not deny directly "on the threshold", especially if happened the first time. But to talk about what is happening, making the ban on the future, it is necessary.
8. Constant lack of cash and the associated requests
For example, to pay for a glass of beer at the bar, to treat a cigarette, to pay public transport etc. Once or twice, it may well be, but when it is repeated constantly, should be strongly refuse.
9. A "weakly try"?
It usually offers initially unacceptable: to try drugs, indecent entertainment etc. All of this must meet categorical refusal.
10. Offers of questionable character
When asked to "friend" is associated with a crime or harm to someone else, it is necessary to dispense with the neutral excuses. Disclaimer calm and polite tone should follow immediately.
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